Just a thought I recently had…
I recently began using a phrase while having a discussion within kasabi from the forum, “seduction artist”, a long while back I came to the conclusion that Pick up artists don’t really get laid… they get phone numbers… make outs…. Dates… but none them seem to get laid consistently (or it’s very limited)… They get lucky after making hundreds of approaches… even worse than the averages ironically… Even worse they then go out and give you advice on women and what they want.
Note: Pick up artists who talk about seduction tend to get laid though (these are often masters or seducers who started off as Pick up artists).
Honestly I’m tired of a lot of pick up artist’s advice… it sucks… it’s limiting and guys who actually fuck women find it as a useless bunch of information. Seduction Artists see everything as a tactic and that they vary for the moment. While most Pick up artists seem to think there is one tactic that will get you laid or get you a phone number… the problem is “there are a 1000 ways to skin a cat.”
No way is more right or wrong, simply different and depending on your personality and “frame” you will have tendencies and congruency with different tactic. I don’t think anyone should take on my exact behaviors but I teach guys the “why” of tactics so they know how they can use the same tactic with their personality and not mine…. What I do is not what works for the next guy… as well as vice versa.
The problem in the community is guys think there is one “routine” or magic technique that works every time for every man but that simply isn’t true.
The ultimate truth and difference is WOMEN ARE NOT LINEAR. There is no ONE technique… women are multi-dimensional so what should you be? MULTI-DIMENSIONAL.
The difference between a seduction artist and pick up artist is simple (outside of a seduction artist will get laid): A seduction artist is multi-dimensional with women… he is responsive… and reactive to her… a chameleon for her needs… and yes a confident collected man with substance… he reads her body language.
A pick up artist has a small variety of skills he’s mastered and doesn’t really read and react to women but instead has a set form of behaviors where he “makes out with women” or scores number or dates.
I have been saying on the forum for the last 3 years body language is the key to natural game…. There is a reason for that… it allows you to react to and be responsive to the women… to come in at the energy level she needs… it creates the ultimate responsive form of game where you read her and thus: Build a connection, understand what she needs, blend to the women, and get a higher percentage of women.
Note: Exhibiting proper body language also gets you lots of “looks”.
You have guys who understand women and seduction rather than understand the “3 types of guys” on the forum and realize the majority guys who get laid know how and when to adjust…. There is no this tactic works better than that… there is this tactic works better for this situation while that tactic works better for that situation.
Note: There are tactics that tend to be more congruent with who we are thus work better for us.
Does this mean you shouldn’t have 1 go to move? No, we all have one tendency but the guys who get laid by the dozen… the guys who fuck hundreds of women… the guys who never needed this forum… the “seduction artists” use many tactics and are responsive to the woman.
Be careful who you take advice from… careful you don’t take advice from pick up artist or you’ll just going to be another guy collecting numbers and not fucking girls… be a seduction artist with a variety of tools. The Most important thing is seduction artists teach guys to be themselves and fuck the girl by way of giving them a variety of tools that work for their situation and are congruent with that person. They also teach you the RIGHT frame to work from rather than some bull shit frame that isn’t as adaptive.
There is one truth with women that can’t be argued “women are multi-dimensional.”
This leads us to another truth “The best way to consistently get women is to be multi-dimensional….Be a responsive man that knows the when and what.”
Good luck in all your Seduction endeavors guys.
Peace and Love,