So I’ve been thinking… a lot of guys don’t realize you need to play to your strengths.. you need to game in a way that would be best for YOU. We look at the PUA community it’s all big on Club Game, or bar game. Then there is the broad topic of Day Game which is just day time… the difference between club game, parties, and bar game is like “night and day”. People react different when they are going out to “hook up” or possibly meet someone than walking down the street. Oh and of course there is online game… something I’ve yet to master. There are plenty of Niches for courtship.
So what I want to talk about is the different niches, something nobody really talks about because they have their favorite game, and that is finding your Niche. Now think about this, you need to play to your strengths that means game in an environment you can do best in. How could I say such a rational thing?
Let’s also talk about your motivation for getting into this stuff, why are you in Pick up? What do you want from it? You want same night lays? A girlfriend? Date multiple girls? That is a decision that should weigh heavily in how you meet girls. This should influence you in the type of game you should acqire.
Note: I think about anyone can learn every type of game, so you can learn all types of game and each will contribute to the other but there are some differences in behavior in different environments.
Now more what I want to talk about is why you should play to your strengths, if you are a good looking guy but don’t have substance be honest about it with yourself, but use your looks… also gain some substance. Guys that are bigger or less attractive shouldn’t be out club gaming imo… attraction isn’t just looks it’s your belief in yourself and you dressing right, acting right, body language.
I’d recommend a bar or pub for the less physically attractive folks so they can let other aspects leap out to women including conversation, after all at the club you aren’t having a deep conversation. Me for instance, I have ok luck at the club (I can dance, know what to do, and dress well-ways I show attraction), but my strength lies in pubs where I can illustrate my personality and build a connection.
I’m not here to lie and say I’m this sexy dude (fit wise)… with a six pack… I’m a chubby guy, so I know my strength lies in my people skills… that is how it’s easiest to get girls for me.
Really good Looking guys can use online game, in fact it is a lot easier for them because girls find them more attractive they are more likely to contact them back. Whereas I’ve had very little luck with online game unless I was on facebook and it was a girl I already knew.
If you are confident playing pool and good at it use it… play some pool, it will give you confidence. If you smoke cigarettes go outside with the smokers, “ask for a light” or be the guy who can give one and have an interesting lighter for story.
Guys too often try and learn game that doesn’t work for them… Do what works for you. Social circle game is also a niche no one really thinks about but honestly think about it…. Opens come free just be attractive and the chick is yours.
What do I recommend? I recommend you look at yourself…. look at your game. Look at what you can improve, but also look at what you have going for you. If you have personality don’t be selfish, share it, go to places you can use it. If you are a good looking guy (like above average) than going to the club will work or anywhere, if you don’t have much personality you can use the club and go for girls there where you can use it to your advantage.
Make a list of good traits. Example: Looks, personality, intelligence, etc.
Make a list of limitations. Example: Shy, can’t dance, nothing to say, etc.
Start gaining the tool sets in every limited area and if it is a problem solve it. If you need to lose weight, go lose weight but that doesn’t make it a limitation, it just means you may want to focus on illustrating value differently than just physically. If you need a sense of style find some. Learn to talk to a girl learn.
From there decide what game will be best for you, you may want to focus on people skills if your looks are limited (be honest with yourself, but that doesn’t mean cut yourself down) then focus on game where you can use words rather than aesthetics… if you’re good looking online game can be easy.
Note: Good looking isn’t just your physical appearance but what you wear, your body language and how you groom yourself.
Always be improving yourself!
Peace and Love,