So rejection can be a bitch but is it really that bad?
I mean I understand you end up invested in this girl, you really care about her, she is sexy, got a great personality, smart, everything you seem to be looking for and she says something like “I really think you are awesome but I just see you as a friend.” This is a bad form of rejection that happens because you never admitted to her what you wanted, until it was too late and you were really needy.
But….. THAT ISN’T the form of rejection I want to focus on. I want to focus on the rejection people worry about when it comes to just approaching a woman you are initially attracted to. That sexy girl you are interested in across the room, the one you should go introduce yourself to but you are terrified she’ll reject you.
Do you think she is going to throw a drink in your face? I mean how often has that happened?
Why on earth are you so terrified of rejection? Is it because her opinion this girl that you have never seen before and may never see again wasn’t interested? So what? Who gives a fuck if some woman you were interested in isn’t interested in… Shit happens.
I’ve never in my life experienced a slapped in my life nor a drink thrown in my face, I know when it’s time to go.
Take a look at life overall, how you learned to walk, how you learned to talk, read, write, EVERYTHING…. What happened throughout life? YOU FAILED MISERABLY a bunch of times, you read the word wrong, said it wrong, fell on the ground learning to walk. So how is it we learn overall? TRIAL AND ERROR… Don’t complicate this guys, we all learn the same way by doing it wrong.
Artificial intelligence computers are all based on the same concept, trial and error. Everything isn’t learning from doing things right but from doing things wrong until you found out how to do it right.
So let’s take a closer look at how you should look at rejection. If failing is just part of the process of learning what is it? A lesson, just like stepping wrong, just like speaking wrong, just like reading wrong, it is simply a lesson. Ok perhaps I shouldn’t have came on this strong, perhaps I should have come on stronger, behavior adjustments along the way to make your skill level higher in EVERY aspect of life.
If you want to be successful you must at the very least RISK failure, however the most successful people you have ever seen all failed miserably along their journey to success. It is just a part of the process of being human. When someone says to you “You failed” your mental response (or verbal for that matter) simply needs to be, no I learned a lesson. I was temporarily deterred but failure implies I’m done, I’ve only begun.
If you just walk up and a girl isn’t interested it could be for any number of reasons that aren’t related to you…. Dating a guy (happily), you remind her physically of her asshole ex, you remind her of some negative moment in her past, you aren’t her type, whatever reason rejection literally can have nothing to do with you, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t critique your behaviors and realize when you need improvement vs. when it simply wasn’t anything to do with you.
Rejection isn’t a physical issue as long as you carry yourself properly and know when no means no. Though I suppose you can end up like this guy if you go too far…. Just be sure to be a responsive male. Not some creepy dude that comes on way too strong.
We’ve all been rejected, but it isn’t rejection that hurts, it’s your outlook on it. I mean honestly do you think that girl physically hurt you? That is irrational, what hurts about some stranger not being interested? NOTHING, you hurt yourself. Rejection is inevitable in life, failure is inevitable, it truly is your reaction to such a thing that counts. Am I some stud that gets 90% of women? Fuck no, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I am good at being who I am and in doing so give those around me the permission to do the same.
Don’t worry about rejection, take it for what it is, a lesson. What can you get out of it when it was in your control? What should you have done differently? It’s no big deal. Don’t make it one. It’s your reaction to rejection truly matters, not the rejection itself. Don’t worry about it at all. Don’t take rejection personally, how could it be personal if she doesn’t know you?
Just some thoughts on this whole rejection doesn’t build confidence or rejection hurts business, fact is, it doesn’t your outlook on it does. Rejection in relationships is a bit more personal and heart wrenching I will admit.
Peace and Love,
P.S. With all the crazy blind fear of rejection I wanted to hear some of the worse(and I have heard some douzies) so I started a funny fan page… Worst rejections ever Check it out here. It’s only a few days old so just add some if you want one. Never fear telling someone elses story either. Don’t be afraid to act like it’s someone else, remember we’ve all been rejected at some point.