Cool isn’t what you wear it’s how you wear it. Too many people ask would this be cool if I wore this? If I chose this jacket with this color shirt will it work? Well I’m not going to sit there and say well that will or won’t work, I’m not a fashion guy, I have my style and I wear what I like but at the same time by no means do I have the right to teach anyone fashion sense.
Now I’m not saying you can be cool wearing anything or that one guy can pull off every style but I will say this much, one guy can wear a blazer and goofy shirt and look cool while some other guy can wear the exact same outfit and you look at him like he has no sense of style and is a low status “beta male”.
Well what is different when it comes to these two guys? A number of things but the two things that encompass it all are High Self Esteem and Core Self Confidence. When you are “cool” and have that swagger that radiates you wear your style, when you are a square or a tool your fashion wears you. This brings me back to my overall first point, it isn’t that you wear something stylish (though this certainly helps and I highly recommend having a sense of class and fashion), it’s that you wear your clothes and not allow your clothes to wear you.
I know from my own personal experience that it has been my body language and presence that has bagged me women. How do I know this? Well when I walk in with a $8 shirt I bought on ebay and some decent color scheme I shouldn’t be out gaming the guy in the $600 shirt, pants, tie, and shoes combo, who has the fashion of “cool” but not the aura of “cool”.
I’ve went to do laundry in a v-neck plane white shirt and some beat up pants and built attraction. It wasn’t very difficult either; it took a whole lot of me not changing a thing about myself. My personality, aura, and presence were attractive, but certainly not my shit for style outfit. Being “cool” isn’t about trying, it isn’t about acting “cool”, it’s as simple as it sounds, it’s about being “cool”.
When I come across these guys and they say well “you’ll never be cool like that”, “what will people think of you”, and every other look for validation to be “cool” statement is absolutely 100% FALSE. It’s about you being you, that is what makes you “cool”, either you are “cool” or you aren’t “cool”, your fashion doesn’t grant you the ability to be “cool”. Keep this in mind next time you buy an outfit and think is this “cool”?
It doesn’t matter whether I think it is “cool” or some fashion guru does, if you feel “cool” wearing it and your attitude shines outside of it you’ll be “cool”. I know that because of some guys who had a horrible fashion sense so horrible in fact that they became eccentric and created their own style, in effect becoming a trendsetter and ironically becoming “cool” because of their lack of fashion (or fashion statement more specifically) that is what it is like to be “cool”.
Just some thoughts I had the other day…. I mean seriously being cool isn’t what is wearing what’s cool, it’s simply being “cool”, don’t complicate things go out and gain self confidence and you’ll gain that aura, it all gets easier afterwards.
Peace and Love,