So I was at the bar the other night, ended up in a pretty deep conversation with a cute young woman who seemed to carry a bit of wisdom to her. Well I just showed you guys my favorite lesson because my ego is what I struggle with the most, actually it is something I think most people struggle with. Since this is the part I struggle with the most in my own core self-confidence I am constantly ego-aware. I am always trying to live in the present and avoid worrying about everyone’s perception of me.
A young woman overheard me talking about the ego, at some point she caught me and inquired about the conversation I had just had. She asked me my thoughts; I re-stated what I had said. Then she lit up with passion I could see her smile radiate with my words. I explained the ego, what I thought of it, and the cons of it, the pros of it. I’m very against the ego, I’ve heard lots of people talk up the ego, I however am not a big fan of it. The cornerstone of insecurities is the ego.
We covered a few topics and at some point I leaked it out that I am a little well known for body language and I was a kind of well-known member in the pick-up community on a forum. For obvious reasons I normally don’t mention my understanding of pick-up.
At a point I told her to me picking up a woman isn’t difficult, I’ve worked on myself so much that whether I attract a woman or not doesn’t change my behavior. To me learning to pick up a woman is as simple as learning to start and carry a conversation that has substance. When I talk to a woman I don’t try and pick up on her, I have a genuine interesting conversation and that raises the moment. I operate off of being me and doing it well.
My favorite part about operating as someone who has core self-confidence and not worrying about picking up a woman is I know what I want, and what I want is a woman for me, not to have sex with 1000s of women, if you are looking for a special woman rather than a one night lay my style is especially essential. Would you want to attract a special woman by starting with a lie? I mean what happens when you actually introduce her to you rather than a routine? As much science as I know I’m still a bit of a romantic and am looking for a special woman out there.
If you aren’t using tips to appear attractive but learn to actually just be attractive everything gets easier. You don’t worry about picking up women because they pick up on you. They are qualifying for you because they are interviewing for you. If you are trying to attract a woman for you why on earth would you want to attract a woman to a pseudo personality or use tricks to get the girl? I suppose if you just want to get laid you can use all the get laid quick tactics you want but if you want a woman of substance for you I suggest learning to be the best you and being someone of substance.
Do you want to get 2 months into dating a woman and she finally finds out some of the biggest things about you because you were hiding them to appear attractive (or less unattractive from your perspective)? Learn to be yourself and while she may be surprised along the way she certainly won’t be upset with WHO you are because you are putting on a “play” for her all the time.
I don’t care what book you pick up, self-confidence book, awareness, or ego book you pick up, the most attractive person you can be is you, and NOT some fake you. Go get your Core Self-Confidence, you don’t want to be 40 years old have no idea who you are or where you are going, that spells trouble for more than you (perhaps a family you created) if you limp along life’s wild path and fall down mountains along the way.
If you guys want a good confidence book here are list of some of my favorites:
Irresistible Attraction by Kevin Hogan (this is a little more Charisma based though)
Get to work on your Confidence guys it is the best thing you can do for yourself and everyone you interact with. Screw learning temporary pick up tricks, look to gain true Core Self-Confidence and just learn to adjust as you go if you want skills with women.
Peace and Love,
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