Many guys want to know how to be attractive, how to get women, how to escalate but there is one statement that will always be true:
Do you want to know what is attractive? FUN! If you go anywhere often the person you find the most attractive (not necessarily sexually) but the person you find most attractive is the person who is the most fun or who makes you feel the best. There is a lot to be said about taking on the mindset of a kid and just not worrying about anything but having fun. The term boyish charm has its appeal to women for a reason.
Being Fun is an attractive Behavior.
You want to be attractive? Just have fun. Don’t trip on all the bull shit you hear about trying to be this guy or that guy, you want to just go out and have fun being yourself.
What should I say to the girl though? Who honestly gives a fuck? I say crazy shit to people, my tone and the fact that you would never expect it make it funny. I’ve had girls walk up beside me sending total and obvious sexual overtures, I look at them and say “umm I was standing there, will you move…” with a huge smile on my face and a very playful tone. Say whatever you want but make sure you say it with the right tone, while being playful.
Does this mean you should be an asshole? NO! I’m not giving you permission or telling you to be cocky, arrogant, an asshole, or a douche bag or any other negative term. I’m telling you to have some fun and this isn’t always at someone else’s expense. You can be playful, say crazy shit, have some fun, and everyone will enjoy your presence.
Remember how I just wrote that blog on reflective energy? Fun is a part of the same equation; people who tune into you will have fun, they will reflect that fun after all fun is contagious.They will love you having fun. In the comedy mockumentary movie Boys and Girls guide to Getting Down the girls are talking negatively about two horribly dressed guys, but then moved on and loved the fact that they were having fun. People like to have fun, and:
Those who have fun give others permission to have fun.
Think of all the beta guys in a big mafia movie the big boss gets told something disrespectful but funny and they all get quiet should I laugh? Should I hit that guy? Kill that guy? What should my reaction be? Then the big boss laughs and they all laugh with him, he gave them permission to laugh.
It’s Alpha to be comfortable. It’s alpha to have fun, something else about having fun, if you are busy having fun you don’t give a fuck about anyone else’s opinion of you. Don’t get caught in thought about all the bull shit and mental masturbation, just go out and for fucks sake have some fucking fun. (yes I mean that on so many levels guys).
I know some of you guys are like but it’s not that simple. I restate: Just go out and for fucks sake have some fucking fun.
Peace and Love