I initially wrote this thinking of guys but I do want to say this goes both ways, I expect a woman to check out a man with just as much regularity and she owes no apology for her thoughts, lust, or fantasy I believe it’s all biological, enjoy your thoughts and your fantasies male or female!
I came to a weird conclusion when I was joking around about sex the other day with a female co-worker and she said “You’re a pervert.” She was blowing out of proportion joking with me. I looked at her and said I actually was talking about bla bla bla. I’m pretty good at cloaking my joking that way if it comes to be any bs I can say I actually never mentioned sex, her mind perceived it that way. It shows they are the ones with sexual thoughts.
It went back and forth and I responded “Well it’s biological.” I realized right there, I won’t apologize for being a man. I like to joke about sex. Why not? It’s funny, hell it’s funny some of the faces we make during sex. Sex is one of the funniest things when you realize how ridiculous our behavior is.
Go move someone’s furniture to have a distant shot at sex, go pay for a ridiculously expensive dinner for sex, our behavior is extremely irrational when it comes to sex.
As men we are programmed to look to fertilize, at all times we want to increase our chances of having offspring, while a woman really has that 2-3 day span for ovulation(plus how long sperm survives in the female body). There is really a pretty small window when a woman can get pregnant but this is also the time she wants sex the most (not saying this to go get women pregnant but to avoid it). Note: This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want sex most of the time, it merely means she wants sex biologically the most at this point. Women check out men just as much as men check out women, they don’t have focused tunnel like vision like men, so they have the advantage of using their peripheral vision to check out a man.
We are wired to check out women. Should you guys be distasteful and disturbing about it? Absolutely not, but realize this: there is no shame in accepting the sexual mind you have. This doesn’t mean you should act on twisted thoughts but you should not feel guilty when you need to fulfill your biological obligation to want her, to look at her, to check her out. There is a time and place for everything your behavior should fit the environment, but no matter the environment don’t be ashamed when you compliment a woman with a second look.
I’m not going to apologize for my biology I will however apologize for distasteful behavior or going too far.
It bothers me the guilt the American culture surrounds sex with, it makes no sense, we almost all agree we like it, but for some reason it isn’t ok to say it publicly? Why does it have to be unsaid? I’m going to be the first to admit I check out women daily, and I don’t see it as a negative thing, I see it as unhealthy not to look. Am I pervert? A little bit but we all are, I’ll admit it right here “I’m a pervert by biology”, it’s unavoidable as a healthy male.
So as a human don’t feel guilty about your sexuality, don’t be conflicted over the thoughts you are supposed to have, but realize the cultural norm, check them out within the rules of your culture i.e. DON’T GET CAUGHT in the states. Joke about sex but do it with mature people with a sense of humor. I’m going to take a stand for my chromosomes, it’s ok to look but it’s not ok to stare. It’s ok to think, but it’s not ok to do at least until granted permission 😉 Realize your thoughts are natural your lust, your desires, your needs, are all biological, enjoy being a man, enjoy being a woman, enjoy your perverted thoughts after all it’s biological.