So I’ve been asked several times where to start to begin pick up, “How should I begin to become a PUA?” Well I’m not going to lie I don’t really consider myself a PUA. I consider myself a confident man who has worked hard to do well with women, it’s not as if I try to pick up on women. I allow the process to take its natural course, I give women the opportunity to pick up on me. I’ve recognized where the difficulties in courtship were and learned to maneuver through them.
Something I recently realized is I’ve strived to become a fantasy man, not a PUA. Women say things like “Any woman would be lucky to be with you.” “You must beat women off with a stick.” “What woman wouldn’t want to date you?” “You seem like you really get me.” “You exceeded my fantasies.” “Women must love you.” I’ve worked hard to be a confident attractive man that can connect, sexually escalate, sexually please, understand, and read women.
My process is a simple but lengthy process if you want to learn to become a woman’s fantasy. This process will make you not just most women’s fantasy but a better happier more complete human. You will also be a master seducer.
The first part of this model follows my Big 3 Keys to Getting Laid, if you’d like you can read it here. My courtship process is based on the natural courtship process but it is more general and contains 3 parts: 1. Being/Building Attraction 2. Connecting/Comfort 3. Sexual Escalation. There are more parts I’m adding because a fantasy man doesn’t just end up having sex, a fantasy man knows how to pleasure a woman, read a woman, understand her, and fulfill her needs at this moment. He is a social chameleon that reacts to the situation and as she needs.
Here are some steps for you so that you can become a master seducer and fantasy man as fast as possible. This isn’t your there in 2 weeks, this isn’t 2 months, this is 6 months of hard work (if you are at ground zero). It takes time to do this, I’m not talking about a routine or a system. Keep in mind my style is NOT going half way. I’m not going to get into specific an area instead I’m going to leave you with homework, a combination of reading and videos, as well as telling you to go find books. You may still need assistance in some area; it’s up to you to find help in those areas (via coaching, books, or videos).
Note: There will be blue links to different articles through out the blog, I suggest you click the link and read and/or watch them.
Step One: Fix your body language. You can check out my Alpha video series for learning great body language. Fixing your body language will make you feel confident.
Step Two: Begin Building your confidence. This should start the same day as your body language change. You need to find true core confidence. Your core confidence will grant you happiness. This also means you’ll have physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual confidence as well as great confident relationships. This should be an ongoing process, never stopping. Find yourself a great confidence book or coach if you can afford one.
Step Three: Become more attractive. This means learn attractive behaviors. What makes a man attractive, what you can do to make yourself attractive (fashion, working out, grooming, etc.). Your confidence should be a part of this. This is an ongoing process just like confidence.
Step Four: Learn to open people learn to open a random stranger. Just start a conversation. Do this with women more often than men, especially attractive women. Here are four articles you need to read:
Step Five: Learn to carry a conversation. This isn’t too difficult I will put up a blog on carrying a conversation shortly. I also want to include text game here because a woman will sometimes prefer texting when you get her number. This is also where day twos start popping up.
Step Six: Learn to build a connection. This should begin when you start talking to a stranger. So I recommend learning these tactics alongside your carrying a conversation. Here is an article I wrote on how to connect with a woman.
Step Seven: Learn to read a woman, this can be easy. Just go watch my “Does She Like Me?” Show. You’ll be able to detect attraction with ease. This will only take about an hour and half of your time but time well spent. This means knowing when to move the interaction further (escalation) or when to revert back to more attraction or connection. If you read a woman emotionally you build a great connection, I recommend learning to read and understand emotion as a part of this.You also learn to read a woman’s thoughts and predict her behavior.
Step Eight: Learn to escalate sexually. This means learning to build genuine sexual tension. If not you won’t get to sex. I highly recommend Warped Mindless’ Sexual Escalation Guide. It’s a great read and will teach you sexual escalation. You can also watch my natural courtship process episode in my Does She Like Me? Show if you would like to see the natural process. It also means learning to respond with the correct signals you read from the woman.
Step Nine: Learn to please a woman sexually. Learn to eat a woman, learn to capture her mind, learn to control her, turn her on, learn to just fuck woman how they want to be fucked. Exceed their fantasies (as a woman just told me). If you go my style learn to anchor women to orgasm, so they can cum on demand. This means learning to become an amazing lay, someone women dream about fucking over and over.
Step Ten: Learn to understand women. Read a good book on the psychology of women, there are differences in what we were made for. There are differences in their behavior during different time periods. Understanding their communication and how it differs from ours. Their behaviors are different but not difficult to understand.
Step Eleven: Learn about relationships. This could be a number of different types of relationships but learning to carry a friendship, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, long term, or short term. Learning to interact in a relationship is very key.
Believe it or not I haven’t completed this process, I’ve never been in a relationship but I do understand them. I’ve had fwb and fuck buddies but never an actual relationship. This is however the model to becoming a woman’s fantasy man (as I’ve been referred to) and a masterful seducer. If you want to be able to seduce almost every woman you come across take this model and gain confidence on every level, and be happy. You will be ridiculous with people and women. Your life will be better and you will be happier and more complete.