When it comes to picking up a woman things are pretty simple, courtship is a simple process that has a ton of complications along the way. It is so simple to get laid and yet so difficult for so many. There are different models to follows when it comes to courtship, I’ve read about 3(anthropologist, biologist, and zoologist(coming soon)). The steps are certainly easy to read, easy to follow, which is why routine game in pick up is so easy because it creates an easy step by step process.
I read a lot about people talking about attraction, talking about connection, and talking about being sexual when it comes to picking up on women. When you really look at the courtship process you can get to sex by going directly sexual (60 Years of Challenge, Stelar, Gunwitch). When you look at a connection guys talk about there is nothing more special than connecting, that’s how you get in her pants, that’s the way you go. Then you look at attraction this is basic either she finds you attractive or she doesn’t, but you can become attractive.
Can you get laid from just being attractive? Absolutely! Same with just escalation or just a connection, each style has its pros and cons. What I don’t understand is why more folks don’t talk about the reality of natural courtship, a true natural courtship process starts with being or becoming attractive.
My style is to utilize all 3, if I can go without a connection why not but it’s rare. The courting process can be quick or long (2 minutes, 2 hrs, 2 weeks, 2 month, 2 years), some people court for a long time before having sex. I’m someone who prefers efficiency which means less work more results. This means I aim for both a high close rate, low approach rate, and to gain results as quickly and easily as possible.
You don’t have to be attractive to her for her to have sex with you; the true story is she’d fuck you for a number of other reasons. Sounds crazy right? It’s really not; people fuck for crazy reasons (money to blackmail to curiosity to boredom). However, the easiest way to fuck a woman is to become attractive to her. She won’t be wet and wild if she doesn’t want to fuck you, maybe I’m weird but I would rather have no sex than bad sex these days.
Now I’m a good looking guy but by no means am I even close to being a “hottie”, my hotness is “ugly hot”, it is my personality that is the most attractive part of me. So my first step in my particular process is become attractive to the woman. This usually happens with ease for me, it involves making them feel good by humor and making them smile. I become attractive by being joking and flirting, pretty simple.
Pro: Being attractive can get you laid, but it doesn’t get you laid often without other skills.
Con: Getting laid by just being attractive means you get lucky. Not that you are good with women. Being attractive never gets a man laid with consistency. Otherwise every “hot guy” would be swimming in pussy.
You can easily fuck a girl without a connection. 60 years of challenge talks about how your escalation is your way of building attraction, your confidence and arrogance in your escalation is attractive. It has its perks for sures, straight and to the point. His whole direct goal is to go the route of skipping the bull shit and just finding women who want to fuck. It is a one night stand tactic and it has its value for sure.
However when you look at the natural courtship process a woman who goes the distance and fucks a guy she normally feels something for him. She gets to the point where she is connected to him, she feels like she knows him, she wants to be with him. Well let’s face it I can’t put a connection with someone in words and certainly can’t cover it in one article but a connection is very important when it comes to getting laid in a lot of pick-ups. One of the easiest ways to get laid by women is to learn to build a connection.
Pro: Building a connection is one of the best parts of the human experience. Learning to build a connection can certainly get you laid.
Con: Building too much rapport gets you in the “friend zone”. If you build too much rapport you end up becoming husband material and she won’t sleep with you because she’ll have an attachment issue(he’ll leave me after he fertilizes).
This is the final step before courtship regardless of the other steps this one MUST HAPPEN. At some point the interaction goes sexual, verbally, or physically, most of the time both. This is very important to getting to sex. In order for you to consistently get laid and not just “get lucky” you need to learn to escalate. Pretty basic pretty simple, you need to get sexual to get sex. The guys who get laid the most know how to escalate.
When you get lucky it’s usually because she does a good majority of the work. She let you get her alone, she gave you the “in”. Once you get escalation skills you just make your opportunity when it “feels” right. Escalation skills aren’t about reading a book (though getting a good idea is key) they are about going out and practicing. Field work and experience (good and bad) is the key to becoming excellent at building sexual tension.
Seduction is all about being sexual, confident, and owning escalation skills. This is why so many guys can get laid so often even with skipping the connection in the natural courtship process. They constantly sexualize until they find takers, it’s more a numbers game than a skill when you play constant escalation. It’s too simple for me to call it a skill. I respect(especially the balls) and appreciate its simplicity but that doesn’t make it a skill.
Pro: This is by far the best tactic to go with if you don’t have the others and you are after one nighters. If you just want same night lays I recommend escalation skills.
Cons: Escalating can be creepy and over responsive can close doors. If you move faster than she is ready for you she’ll likely say no. Your goal is to get past her slut shield and it goes up with frequency when you move faster than her.
Putting it Together
When I go to pick up a woman I start with illustrating myself as attractive. My attractiveness is due to my personality and charisma, this means having them interact with me to build attraction. As I continue to build more attraction I move on to building a connection, which is relatively simple. Using my rapport tactics you can build a connection with ease. It doesn’t take as long as you would think to build a connection and you merely capitalize by understanding the natural process and simulating it.
This is the most important part and it’s important you realize that if you don’t do this you won’t ever get to sex without escalating. You need to escalate. Now how quickly should you start to escalate sexually? Pretty much as soon as attraction is built, as soon as you see she is attracted add some sexual joking in, don’t come on too strong but acknowledge her attraction by beginning to build sexual tension. As soon as you can, sometimes you need to build a connection before going very sexual but you can build them at the same time. It’s not about same night kisses, or phone numbers it’s about learning to build genuine sexual tension. At the end of the interaction if you know how to properly escalate sexually she’ll want sex more than you, that is your ultimate goal to let their sexual desires surpass yours. How do you make sure you get laid every time? Make her want to fuck more than you.
Peace and Love,