Now I’ve already went over Lowndes’ perfect pick up and it holds a lot of validity but I want to give credit where credit is due and that is that she got it from Timothy Perper. He is a biologist who studied courtship in bars through observation, his book Sex Signals: The Biology of Love has a great perspective. Some folks may not enjoy the book but I enjoy any book that teaches me anything. Some are rough lessons undoubtedly (hard reads).
Perper’s courtship process is great and holds a lot of validity, like Givens I have gained some of my thoughts and techniques from him. It’s brilliant and pretty simple.
I will say this much his is a little sloppier (more humanness to it) but far more in depth. He agrees with Givens in that most of the time a woman is the first person to initiate courtship through signaling.
His first Core sequence is talking. She will either acknowledge or start reciprocating interest or you earn it. However courtship begins with talking in his model. I’ve seen folks kiss without talking but they did interact with eye contact for 45 minutes or more.
His second Core sequence is turn, a woman will turn to start showing her interest. A man reciprocates or vice versa but at some point the people start to face each other.
His third Core sequence is touch when the couple starts to turn touch may begin and courtship escalates.
It’s important to realize this can happen in 3 seconds or in 45 minutes but at some point the potential mates will begin to fully face each other and touch happens with more frequency. They will begin to fully face each other eye contact will become more intense, at some point they won’t be able to take their eyes off of you. Sometimes the woman reaches this point before the man or woman before the man, but at some point in a successful courtship sequence they begin to fully face each other.
His courtship sequence goes on to falling in sync at some point the couple does fall in sync, takes drinks at the same time, tips a head, looks at the same thing, mirrors each other, etc. This is true of any courtship sequence that follows onto sex. You need to fall into sync.
Note: If you do go straight into kissing and she just starts kissing back and you don’t fall in sync while kissing you won’t be having sex. The kiss will feel wrong to her and she won’t enjoy it. How could she, you are a shitty kisser to her.
His sequences end here, but I do agree short of prostitution sex can only happen if you begin with talking, turning, touching, and finally falling in sync.