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How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 3: Breathing and Touching

Breathing pattern

This again is a very well-known tactic to a lot of people but still not incredibly popular. When someone breaths they have a certain rhythm as we fall into sync with someone their rhythm and ours begins to match and we fall into unison. One powerful subconscious way to build a connection is to simply match their breathing pattern.

This means matching not just the speed and depth of breath but also to where they breathe. There is a difference between where you breathe as a person, some people breath to their stomach which puts you in a feel state (NLP), some people breathe to their chest, we all have certain styles of breathing. So when you match breathing patterns you want to breathe to the same place as well as at the same pace when you match breathing patterns.


Touch is a very intimate behavior. We tend to avoid touching people we like and love touching people we are attracted to but more importantly nothing replaces touch when it comes to intimacy. If you are having a long conversation with someone over the phone or on video chat, it’s not nearly the same as in person. In order for you to build a connection with anyone you need touch. Your mother was the first person to touch you, and because of this regardless of whether you like her or not holds a strong connection with you.

Politicians are known for shaking with one hand and adding a light touch to the upper arm, this creates more touch and a far more intimate interaction.

Light Upper Arm Touch

There were 2 experiments done where they tested how the influence of a brief (1-3 seconds) light upper arm would change the initial attraction and see whether it helped or hurt

In one experiment 3 different men (240 approaches) walked up to ask a woman for her number as she was walking by and see his success rate (10%). The second go around he asked the exact same question but added in additional light upper arm touch, this doubled the amount of phone number they received (20%). The women were then all told about the experiment to find out how many numbers were correct.

In another experiment an average looking man (120 approaches) went to a night club where you ask women to dance. The women again were all asked the same question in regards to dancing to a slow song, however half the time a light upper arm touch was added. There was a significant increase again in how often they said yes (43% to 65%).

This shows how significant touch can be for adding both attraction and building a connection, I highly recommend you adding this tool to your social tools cabinet.

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 1: Experiences and Eye Contact

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 2: Mirroring

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 3: Breathing and Touching

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 4: How to Talk, What to Say, and Concluding


About Science of Natural Game

I understand what it’s like to be that guy who struggles with women. I was god awful with women, I not once but twice went multiple years without sex, and I promise it wasn’t by choice. Ignorance played a large role in my issues with women, if I would have known now back in the days my dating life would have never slouched. I got desperate for affection with women, I wished I could have more. I read those pick up manuals, I read books by scientists on courtship. I went out and experienced what worked for me, and what “worked for others”. I found a process that makes every man skilled with women. I realized something else, yeah some of this stuff might work for some guys but we are all a little different and that’s a good thing… what I say may not be what you say, but there is a simple science and process to getting good with women and if you follow this process you will indeed be happy with your abilities with women. The most important thing for me is for you to be you, I don’t want to change who you are, I want you to love who you are, I want you to understand who you are, and I want you to be happy about all of it. I won’t ask you to dress up in peacocking outfit, I’ll ask you to be the most attractive guy by giving you skills and assets. Being you will be the peacock, will get you the attention of beautiful women. Most guys will simply tell you what to say and that will get you laid… but what happens when I am not here to tell you what to say? When what I have to say feels bland and not quite you? I don’t want you to be anyone else but you, the best you and the Man you want to be. I won’t tell you what to say, I’ll teach you to have a conversation. I won’t lie to you, I’ll tell you how it is and give you the facts. I won’t say it to be mean, I will say it for you to grow and become your best you with women and for you. I want you to be honest, knowledgeable, and sexy, and you will be when I’m done with you. Knowledge is power, and honesty is sexy…. I am not asking you to be anyone else, after all everyone else is already taken. If you need help or support with anything I am here, because I care about you. I want you to be a great, I want you to be all you can be. I want you to be your best self and that means I am here to support you in all your endeavors in life, not just with women but living the life you want… if you want to travel let’s figure out how, if you want to dance let’s teach you, if it’s weight loss let’s figure it out, if you want to surf let’s get you on a board, let’s give you the life you want and dream about, to let you be the you dream of being. I feel there is a process to getting women and more importantly getting good with women, it’s a science and if you follow the process it will work for you. Science isn’t about what’s true, as the truth is merely a perception science is the process we conclude will give us results… that’s what I give guys – results, the ability to get the women that will make them happy and help them live the life they love. Peace and Love, Vic

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