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How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 1: Experiences and Eye Contact

You can build a connection with just about anyone, the reason I say just about anyone is some people you just won’t get along with here and there. I’m not some man that is going to lie to you and tell you that you can connect with anyone the honest truth is there is always going to be someone you won’t. There are douche bags out there and it’s just not going to happen in some cases. There is always going to be some female asshole that is just how it is. I will admit these tactics will work on any person(not specific to females) so the title maybe misleading.

You’d be surprised how good you can get with connecting with a woman. The simplest lesson a man will ever need to learn is listening builds a connection, talking builds attraction (or ruins it),  yes there are certain things you say to help build a connection but for the most part that is when you are building comfort and attraction so they will open up to you. This goes for building a sexual attraction and nonsexual attraction (friendship) alike.

Caution: Some of these things can be considered over-responsive if you use them to soon, it’s important that you use every tool at the right moment or the perfect tool does a horrible job at the wrong time. If you start with too strong you can become CREEPY.


The reason that listening is so important when it comes to building a connection is when we tell stories we re-experience them. The easiest way to build a connection with anyone is to share an experience. The easiest way to share an experience is to talk about one. That doesn’t mean you can’t just go have some experiences with women, after all an experience is as simple as inside joke based on an observation or small humiliating moment is an experience that you can capitalize on(even saying the wrong thing).

You can take a woman on a walk outside to have a talk at a club, you can walk to the next location (take her comfort in her shoes into consideration). Going to play at the park can be a positive experience helping build a connection. Experiences are everywhere just catch them and enjoy them during the moment.

Eye Contact

In order to build attraction and a connection you need to maintain strong CONFIDENT eye contact. This means that you should look away here and there so you don’t become over responsive but you shouldn’t look down but instead away. The eye contact should also fit the intensity of the conversation to much eye contact and you could come across as creepy.

Note: Pay close attention to what direction your torso faces when you make eye contact. The more direct your torso is when you are making eye contact the stronger a signal you are sending. When you touch while you make eye contact it is far more intimate so keep this in mind while you touch. Also the closer you are the more intimate eye contact feels. Be careful that you aren’t over-responsive.

Intimate Gaze

The Intimate gaze is one of my favorite nonverbal “moves” to make. It is relatively simple and helps build sexual tension making the kiss nearly unavoidable. It is simple eye to eye to lips, repeat.I have seen it written as a social gaze, but I don’t look men in the lips when I talk to them, it feels far to intimate to me.

Note: A similar Gaze called the business gaze can be used for professional relationships, eye to eye to hairline, repeat.

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 1: Experiences and Eye Contact

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 2: Mirroring

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 3: Breathing and Touching

How to Connect with that Sexy Dame: The Science behind Connecting- Part 4: How to Talk, What to Say, and Concluding


About Science of Natural Game

I understand what it’s like to be that guy who struggles with women. I was god awful with women, I not once but twice went multiple years without sex, and I promise it wasn’t by choice. Ignorance played a large role in my issues with women, if I would have known now back in the days my dating life would have never slouched. I got desperate for affection with women, I wished I could have more. I read those pick up manuals, I read books by scientists on courtship. I went out and experienced what worked for me, and what “worked for others”. I found a process that makes every man skilled with women. I realized something else, yeah some of this stuff might work for some guys but we are all a little different and that’s a good thing… what I say may not be what you say, but there is a simple science and process to getting good with women and if you follow this process you will indeed be happy with your abilities with women. The most important thing for me is for you to be you, I don’t want to change who you are, I want you to love who you are, I want you to understand who you are, and I want you to be happy about all of it. I won’t ask you to dress up in peacocking outfit, I’ll ask you to be the most attractive guy by giving you skills and assets. Being you will be the peacock, will get you the attention of beautiful women. Most guys will simply tell you what to say and that will get you laid… but what happens when I am not here to tell you what to say? When what I have to say feels bland and not quite you? I don’t want you to be anyone else but you, the best you and the Man you want to be. I won’t tell you what to say, I’ll teach you to have a conversation. I won’t lie to you, I’ll tell you how it is and give you the facts. I won’t say it to be mean, I will say it for you to grow and become your best you with women and for you. I want you to be honest, knowledgeable, and sexy, and you will be when I’m done with you. Knowledge is power, and honesty is sexy…. I am not asking you to be anyone else, after all everyone else is already taken. If you need help or support with anything I am here, because I care about you. I want you to be a great, I want you to be all you can be. I want you to be your best self and that means I am here to support you in all your endeavors in life, not just with women but living the life you want… if you want to travel let’s figure out how, if you want to dance let’s teach you, if it’s weight loss let’s figure it out, if you want to surf let’s get you on a board, let’s give you the life you want and dream about, to let you be the you dream of being. I feel there is a process to getting women and more importantly getting good with women, it’s a science and if you follow the process it will work for you. Science isn’t about what’s true, as the truth is merely a perception science is the process we conclude will give us results… that’s what I give guys – results, the ability to get the women that will make them happy and help them live the life they love. Peace and Love, Vic

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