So I sent my bigggest crush this…… First poll

To All those actual Fans,

So I sent my biggest crush a Facebook message and I’m not sure how it came across, I’m not normally someone who does this shit but since I know a lot of my actual followers are women I would certainly appreciate your opinion on what I wrote and her response. I rarely fall into the trap crushing on women I can’t have, I’m a pretty guarded guy I tend to keep myself away from woman because I know in the end I am a romantic and I really don’t want to get hurt, as I have said before “My greatest fear is my greatest desire, love.”

This is my Oneitis woman, I am having trouble getting over her. As I said I can get dozens of other woman but what the fuck, hell got a kiss and a number tonight, plus an offer to fuck. I got probably the best looking and dopest chick’s number on Friday I have ever had, a sexy bartender(S), but in reality I am terrified that I will crush on this woman as hard as I have P.

S is sexy, she is dope and I use to have a huge crush on this girl, she is a 11 in a sea of 8s(just like P), as I like to put it she is a woman I know I am good enough from a “I am who I am” stand point, but if you met her you would certainly think she was out of my league for looks. I no longer feel this way, I am certainly good enough for a woman of this caliber but I still am having trouble getting over P, she is dope and I have never been around a woman like this, it almost hurts (it does). Well let me know what you think of what I said. Thanks for your advice in advance. Keep in mind I use to kick with this woman 3 and 4 times a week and was cool, had other chicks around but one day I didn’t care for any other woman(still don’t).

Hey P,
I have an obvious confession to make, I’ve been avoiding you. I am sorry, you are a brilliant beautiful awesome woman, and the obvious result is I have gained a huge crush on you. It’s not in my nature to puss out like this but I have to avoid you so that my feelings for you can die.

I understand there is no possibility for a future between us, I’m cool with that, but this is also why I have to do my own thing. I can’t be around you while you are out flirting with other guys or on the phone talking to them flirting. I can’t help you do sex stretches like I did the last time I seen you, all that shit fucks me up a little doll. I hope you can understand why it would. I don’t blame you, you are a single woman, do your thing. Just understand that it’s my issue and I need to sort this shit out before we can kick it on the regular again.

You have stolen a lot of my confidence, my thoughts, and given me some irregular heart beats, this is the first time in a long time I haven’t had a chance at a woman I like. So don’t take this personal, take this as me understanding you don’t want more from me, and me needing to be over you.

You are a cool dish, and I do want to kick it in the future but I hope you understand that if there is no opportunity for someone a person likes it is hard to be around them. It’s hard to see you flirting with all those guys, it’s hard to hear about it, you are on the prowl so do what you do just give me time to sort out my own shit.

I hope you are understanding about this stuff, don’t feel guilty or anything, it’s on me and when I get myself sorted it out I can be Victor again, instead of the low confidence guy I was falling back into. I told J (her best friend and my good friend), I didn’t want tell you because you have been so adamant about me being Sean’s (her ex) friend and you are so against dating an ex’s friend. I figured you’d be upset with me that I gained feelings so I’ve been keeping them suppressed, I couldn’t do it anymore, I just have to let them die.

I wanted to tell you in person that it was fucking me up, but I realized I would be fucked up all over again. Doing this through text felt wrong, I just needed to be able to let you know what’s up with me. And I have to admit this is hard enough for me, I don’t pour out my feelings very often, I keep myself guarded for a reason. Please be understanding.

Sorry for putting this on you, don’t feel guilty, just give me some time and I’ll be cool. You know me I’ll get over it, just need some time. I will be looking forward to kicking with you in the future though.

Stay up Doll,

Her response was:

😦 just know I have nothing but love for you Victor. Please take care and try not to be a total stranger.

What the fuck does that mean? She didn’t exactly say she didn’t have feelings and as a guy who understands attraction I know she is attracted to me. She is, I’ve seen the preens, the lean in, the her denying me consciously but not subconsciously. My biggest regret is asking for a ride rather than paying a cab, her and I would have hooked up without my buddy there, but my own emotions and attraction are really fucking me up. She didn’t deny me with that statement but at the same time she didn’t say “Hey Vic you are a cool cat and I think someone will make you happy but I ain’t in to you, take as long as you need.” No to me this seems almost a cop out like, “Hey I wish you would have said this sooner” but you know I am an optimist. I just seemed to give her so many get out of jail free cards that’s all I got. I know she supposedly started seeing a guy a week and a half back but I feel like a woman not into me gives me more excuses not less. I feel like she tries to let me down easy when a woman who truly cares about me as person but doesn’t want me as more, instead she just basically avoided everything I said and gave nothing back, is it an afraid response or a it’s cools take time response?

Please folks give some advice, as it stands I’m playing the disappearing act. I am hanging out with a few other women and and looking to get some, then maybe I can be around her and it won’t matter. Is this an immature standpoint or is this the stand point I need when she won’t let me be with her?

Thanks guys



About Science of Natural Game

I understand what it’s like to be that guy who struggles with women. I was god awful with women, I not once but twice went multiple years without sex, and I promise it wasn’t by choice. Ignorance played a large role in my issues with women, if I would have known now back in the days my dating life would have never slouched. I got desperate for affection with women, I wished I could have more. I read those pick up manuals, I read books by scientists on courtship. I went out and experienced what worked for me, and what “worked for others”. I found a process that makes every man skilled with women. I realized something else, yeah some of this stuff might work for some guys but we are all a little different and that’s a good thing… what I say may not be what you say, but there is a simple science and process to getting good with women and if you follow this process you will indeed be happy with your abilities with women. The most important thing for me is for you to be you, I don’t want to change who you are, I want you to love who you are, I want you to understand who you are, and I want you to be happy about all of it. I won’t ask you to dress up in peacocking outfit, I’ll ask you to be the most attractive guy by giving you skills and assets. Being you will be the peacock, will get you the attention of beautiful women. Most guys will simply tell you what to say and that will get you laid… but what happens when I am not here to tell you what to say? When what I have to say feels bland and not quite you? I don’t want you to be anyone else but you, the best you and the Man you want to be. I won’t tell you what to say, I’ll teach you to have a conversation. I won’t lie to you, I’ll tell you how it is and give you the facts. I won’t say it to be mean, I will say it for you to grow and become your best you with women and for you. I want you to be honest, knowledgeable, and sexy, and you will be when I’m done with you. Knowledge is power, and honesty is sexy…. I am not asking you to be anyone else, after all everyone else is already taken. If you need help or support with anything I am here, because I care about you. I want you to be a great, I want you to be all you can be. I want you to be your best self and that means I am here to support you in all your endeavors in life, not just with women but living the life you want… if you want to travel let’s figure out how, if you want to dance let’s teach you, if it’s weight loss let’s figure it out, if you want to surf let’s get you on a board, let’s give you the life you want and dream about, to let you be the you dream of being. I feel there is a process to getting women and more importantly getting good with women, it’s a science and if you follow the process it will work for you. Science isn’t about what’s true, as the truth is merely a perception science is the process we conclude will give us results… that’s what I give guys – results, the ability to get the women that will make them happy and help them live the life they love. Peace and Love, Vic


3 thoughts on “So I sent my bigggest crush this…… First poll

  1. I’m going to re-blogged this and give it the response it deserves and I’m going to ask a few others to do it also. So you can get some legit feedback.

    Now for my opinion, you obviously did the right thing by stepping away and acknowledging your feelings for her. You were right about her feelings for you because just look at her response. No emotion from her end. I’m an optimist just like you bro, cause I have done some of the same things with girls. Her statement wasn’t a cop out.

    Posted by ajonespua | 11/05/2012, 2:32 pm

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