There is something about my style that has a very high success rate. A friend and I were chatting the other day and he asked me something about choosing one of the two girls who are friends he is attracted to, I said something like the women will sort out which one you get you don’t always get to choose if one of the women called “dibs” on you. So what do I do? I attract them all sort it out later. It sounds weird but if a woman isn’t attracted to me so be it, she won’t be for me if I’m not her type. My basic overall style is being attractive and responding should I choose to from there.
Given 5 Phases
Before I get into my style in how to open never get rejected I’m going to get nerdy and briefly talk about Givens 5 phases of courtship. I have a different type of style because of my studies, I look at courtship as pretty simple though I have a mix of all the courtship processes I studied in my head I like to use the simplest to outline the process and the rest of them sort of interact to create the rest of my courtship process.
First phase is to get the interest of the intended target. Peacocks use their bright tells to get attention.
The second phase is recognition, this is usually eye contact when the two identify the initial attraction and agree on it.
Talking is the third step for Givens I prefer to call it interaction as I’ve watched a kid not talk to a woman for 45 minutes kiss her, then talked and got her number. We interact with people we like if we have a choice.
When you close the distance you eventually get to touch. We start to touch those we are attracted to.
His final phase is sex, obvious and pretty simple really.
We are only going to go into the first 3 phases.
Now when it comes to my style of pick up I use a game that really lets me never get shot down, because I never make the first move and I build initial interest. It’s a weird tactic but I use peacocking behaviors to attract attention. I happen to have a loud personality, I laugh, I joke, I have fun, and I have charisma. I say witty things and my body language seems to have presence (as I’ve had people remark). This sounds egotistical but really I am trying to describe things I’ve worked hard to gain, so if it sounds like an ego stroke I apologize it is really me trying to describe my personality to you guys and how I am.
Normally if I have a target I might walk over with a friend to the area, maybe while she is grabbing a drink so it is natural. Then I joke with my friend and laugh a little, I have enough wit to make a few remarks sitting there in line. Eventually she looks over and you gain recognition, she is at least for the moment interested enough in the situation to look at you.
You must respond to her recognition or the moment passes. I happen to have spent years studying body language, so I notice a small reaction. Microexpressions (Paul Ekman discovered these, Cal Lightman of Lie to Me is based off of him) are the most honest expression men and women use. So if I say something and I notice an expression or reaction with her body language I will use it. You don’t need to read Microexpressions to use this stuff it just allows me to see anyone’s reaction(they never go away).
Two Fridays ago on the way back from the bar we stopped at Del Taco and I waited in line as I was talking with my buddy, there was a few cute girls there but there was one right in front of us in line. I was kind of drunk so I don’t remember the words but basically I bullshitted with my buddy joking around and I waited for her to react. I knew I could get her to smile or laugh. When she reacted I responded to her reaction by saying see she feels bla bla bla too. She turned and started a small talk then turned back as I talked to my buddy again. The guys in front gave it a go talking to her but she came back to me later.
Last Friday I went to the club and as I waited in line I was bull shitting with my sister and there was this cute woman in front of me in line. Same old thing I just kind of joked around about something got a slight smile and said see she feels the same. Then she turned and looked and talked for a second. Ok I’d been bsing for a minute and I couldn’t help but wonder why I couldn’t get her attention. I see later on she had a boyfriend. See this technique works regardless of whether they are interested in finding someone but at the same time it makes it innocent but fun and funny conversation to begin with thus it’s not threatening, an attractive conversation(making you more attractive) and impossible to ignore.
Summing up No Rejection
It is a very simple move that works very well as long as you have the character to handle it and the body language skills to notice something so you can capitalize on the moment. I have a pretty unique style because with my style I have them join the conversation naturally and it’s almost like they are picking up on me the way the conversation works out. After all you used how they felt at a time to open them. You were reacting to their body language open.
This is basically a no rejection technique for checking to see if she is attracted to you and your personality before you actually open, and because you are literally reacting to her body language. If you have the character to pull it off I highly recommend adding this tool to your natural open closet.