IOI or Indicator of Interest is basically how men in the pick-up community spot attraction. When it comes to the pick-up community things get said along the lines of assume the attraction or she did this she is definitely interested. When it comes to body language you can’t simplify it down to one signal means attraction. That is the problem with IOIs you have all these moments where you could certainly read a situation as attraction or you have all these moments where you can read a woman as unattracted but she is.
When you read body language you need to take into consideration all of The Guidelines of Reading Body Language, this is the problem with reading IOIs is they never really talk about how things change in different situations, always pay attention to the context of the signal. Seriously is she preening or is her hair just in her eyes? Is she touching you because she wants to or is she touching because it’s crowded? It seriously has to be one of my biggest pet peeves, why the fuck do you say “oh she made eye contact she is attracted”? Or she talked to you she is attracted. There is no one size fits all when it comes to attraction.
Clusters are also huge when it comes to reading body language. You don’t just look at one signal and assume something. Just because someone is flipping you off doesn’t mean it’s negative. Though we often assume it is.
Some women don’t preen at all, instead they use pacifying behaviors when they are attracted. Some women touch every guy but the guy they are attracted to (rare but wouldn’t be unusual). We all have our own personal behaviors (idiosyncratic behaviors) and it is very important that you baseline her behaviors in order to read her correctly.
You want her behaviors to be consistent; they should be consistently showing attraction. You don’t want to make an analysis off of her first impression; you want to base your analysis off of her consistent body language. She may have liked you 2 minutes ago but then you stated your opinion on something, now she doesn’t like you.
Congruency falls along the same lines as consistent behaviors because the behaviors need to be congruent. They need to all agree and be in alignment, a common part of lie detection is looking for incongruent behaviors with words or the situation.
Timing is very important when it comes to behavior you want to make sure her behavior matches the right timing if you want to look for attraction. If a woman is talking to you then looks at another guy making eye contact and preens her signal isn’t directed at you, the timing of her attraction cluster is for the guy she just looked at then you. Timing is very important when it comes to reading body language.
Culture is also very important to take into consideration as well, different cultures practice different behaviors. Gestures unlike facial expression (universal) are a learned behavior. Make sure you take culture into consideration when reading the body language of anyone.
Here is the first episode going over the first 5 Weeks(the next 4)