At a certain point in the courtship process distance closes and touch begins. There are different forms of touch but once touch hits a certain point in courtship and you are building sexual tension rather than attraction. There are certain intimate areas that turn a woman on if you do them right.
These actions require confidence and that means comfort and making it natural. It’s not a big deal, so they should be soft and subtle, even if they end up firmer as tension builds and touch needs to be.
Disclaimer: There is a proper time for all of these touches it’s important to realize the neck, shoulders, thighs, hips, stomach, breasts, and vagina are all erotic zones but if you touch any one of those areas too soon or with too intense of an action you will become a creeper, pervert, or over responsive. So you must gauge the situation and how aroused she is to see if you are “allowed” to touch.
Lips- When you are making out with a woman biting her lips. When you “shoosh!” a woman by putting your finger over her mouth you are creating a very intimate touch, especially since when you put your finger to her lips you are bringing her to a kiss regardless of whether she realizes it. Lips are a very sensual area. If the tension is high some women appreciate gentle nibbles or rough bites on lips as tension builds.
The Neck- The neck is a very sensual area, when you get to the point where you are touch a woman’s neck or kissing a woman’s neck you can certainly build tension. I might hug a woman I’m attracted to I put my nose to her neck and tell her she smells good. An extra long hug with an attracted woman is normally the perfect moment.
When it comes to sex some women, love having their neck kissed or their throat grabbed, some like when you bite their neck. It is a very sensitive area and I tend to vary what I do on the neck to give it just enough randomness. You really have to pay attention to her reaction and whether she is aroused by which actions or you can just ask.
The Shoulder- During sex or making out kissing the shoulders can be a huge turn on for a woman. Women that like biting also tend to like to be bitten or nibbled along the shoulders.
Pulling Hair- When you are making out with a woman, when you first start kissing, or when you are fucking a woman you can pull her hair but there is a way to do it and a way not to do it. The key is to controlling her head with your hand.
This is the way one woman said is the best way and it is a good universal way (every woman is different though).
- You move your hand across her face moving her hair.
- You move your hand down to her neck around to the back of her neck.
- You move your hand up the back of her scalp and grab a bunch of her hair at once so that you control her.
This doesn’t hurt a woman, it controls her and it is a very sensual move when you go in for a first kiss. If the tension is good enough you can use this and close just about every time. During sex the hair pull is a little different if you aren’t face to face.
Sides/Lower back- The sides and lower back are both very sensual areas, a woman doesn’t let you touch her there unless she is very comfortable with you. It’s not always sexual but putting your hand on her shoulder is a chump move, it is a move “just friends” makes. If you want to show you think of her sexually put your hand on her lower back or around her side not around her shoulder. I actually think the around the shoulder move is normally an “I like you but can’t show it” move, a brief form of intimacy that tests the water.
I always put my hand on the lower back of a woman to build comfort with touch and let them know my intentions. It also shows you are a confident man, and it is a move that just seems to impress women because it does have it’s boldness.
The Hips- I love the hips, I love gripping the hips of a woman. This is one of the best moves I have for tension building. While not every woman loves it, some shield it with “that tickles,” it is a move that I rarely come across failing. You can control a woman from the hips. Again be very careful not to do it to soon, on more than one occasion I used it a bit early and it can shut down a woman.
Hip Control- This is my play off of my love for hips, sometimes the tension is big high enough to full on grab the hips so you grab onto their belt loops and kind of yank on them control their hips in a somewhat sexual manner.
When things get more intimate, you can use another variation in which you grab a woman’s underwear pulling her back and forth. Sometimes you can put your fingers through twisting your fingers to tighten their underwear a little while you control them. Be careful some women’s underwear are too tight for that. This works especially well on a dance floor when it comes to grinding and when you get to building sexual tension. I love doing this to a woman when we get to that point.
Midsection- Midsection is similar to the hips a very erotic area but when you are dancing with a woman in front of you can control her or kind of have your hand hint of something more by putting your hand around the front of her on her midsection. If she has a belt on I might grip it kind of controlling her. This works very well in getting your hand in the area that hints at more and hints of more. When tension is high but distance is not (perhaps strong eye contact, sexual undertone conversation) with a woman I might reach over and grab her belt buckle and pull her toward me flirting a little.
Breasts- It’s not difficult to figure out that breasts are a sexual area, we’ve made them that. Good size subtle healthy breasts mean healthy possible offspring. When you touch a woman on her chest she may be the type that finds it completely sexual or she may be the type that finds them to be just breasts. However once arousal gets started most of the time when you are messing around with a woman it is very welcome, and a big turn on. Kisses and bites help too during sex and before, without and with clothes (yes I have bitten women on the breast through clothes during passionate times).
Thighs/legs- When there is an attraction present and you are sitting next to each other a common move is just to put your hand on her thigh/knee. This is a small move but it is a touch in an intimate area if you aren’t in a relationship it isn’t an expected touch. Putting your hand on her leg moves the interaction to a more sexual feel.
When I am petting a woman’s kitty with my tongue I might kiss or bite her thigh while continuing to stimulate her clit with my thumb or fingers. Then go back or I might just tease her by touching her inner thigh as close to her pussy as possible without touching it. Oral sex is a topic of its own.
While I make out with a woman I might run my hand all the way down a woman’s thigh but not quite touching her pussy, after doing this several times I’ve found that most women don’t like your hand stimulating her sexually that much in that area without you starting to touch her pussy or clit. I’ve made several women cum without ever getting her pants off, it’s no big deal. One thing sweet about clitoral stimulation is you can do it without removing any clothes.
Vagina-I’m not even going to get into this but we all know at some point you need to start playing down there. It is obviously a very sexual area but if you skip building attraction or sexual tension it won’t lead to consensual sex if you touch there. In fact be sure to make sure there is sufficient tension to put your hand anywhere near her thigh let alone vagina.
Touch in all these areas is very important when you build sexual tension. It’s important to get attraction and then sexual tension built up enough to use these moves, if you are good enough you can use all of them on the same women in one night and boy will that make for stimulating night for her. Timing is very important along with making the touch natural and comfortable by your confidence in them.