Body Language, Sex

How to Tell when She really Cums: Signs of an Orgasm

Signs of an Orgasm

When it comes to sex men have a big issue how the hell do we know we really did a good job? How do we know we actually made her cum? Well I’m sure I’ve been lied to in the past, I’m sure we all have been. Hell I’m sure I’ll be lied to in the future. A woman is nice enough to not break down your self-esteem by telling you suck in bed. Well most of the signs of orgasm are felt and very minute. All the signs of arousal show up during orgasm which makes it very difficult to detect orgasm. So how do you identify an orgasm? Well it takes practice but you notice a release point right at the peak of her stimulation an orgasm causes some changes in behavior.

Sounds and Breathing Patterns

One of the many tiny changes in behavior include an erratic breathing pattern but for many women nearing an orgasm their breathing pattern is accelerated. As she gets to the release point she may act differently some women can’t yell(they go quiet to release), some women have no reason to avoid yelling so when they release they scream. Normally when a woman is loud during an orgasm, they are loud the whole sexual experience not just at orgasm. Sometimes a woman may just let out a loud groan.

Limp Body

As a woman gets to orgasm she builds tension throughout her whole body, sometimes she stiffens her entire body as she holds in before orgasm(this is normally more obvious in the first orgasm of a sexual experience(not first time but the beginning of sex) then in the 5th or 6th). After orgasm her whole body loosens up as her satisfaction from orgasm is reached. Look for a completely relaxed pudding like body after orgasm. The body just falls relaxed.


Sometimes a woman spasms right after orgasm, this is common after any arousing exercise (yes sex is great exercise).  A woman may spasm her whole body or her legs but she will sometimes spasm directly after orgasm. Normally following spasms the body goes limp.

Goofy Involuntary Spasm video:

Pupil Dilation

This one is very hard to see because most women orgasm eyes closed but sometimes a woman and you may be making strong eye contact forehead to forehead having sex and you will noticing right as she cums a burst in pupil dilation right at orgasm, this is difficult to see but very reliable.

Tight Grip into a Relaxed Satisfaction

Like the rest of the body when some women cum they will begin to gain tension in vagina gripping sometimes harder on your dick. Her snatch can clamp down pretty hard right before she releases. When she has orgasm she releases your dick at the same time as the rest of her behaviors ending her peak stimulation with that satisfying orgasm. Note: Some women just have pussy power, and control it very well.

Her Clit

When a woman is near orgasm right before her clit will start to pull inwards, and as she orgasms it will come back out to play. So if you are going down on a woman you will see this happens right before she orgasm.

A Gap in the Moment

It’s hard to explain this but when a woman cums there is a gap in the moment. Her behavior stops at release time, keep in mind some women cum fast and some cum long, some cum soft and some cum hard. When she cums though there will be a gap in her behavior where she is different, she is uncontrolled and she gives herself to the moment.

Every Woman has O Tells

Ok how a woman cums can all depend on the day she had, the moment, anything. Every woman has tells during orgasm. When she cums she will have certain behaviors, some women hold their breath right before orgasm, some bite their lip, some start saying your name uncontrollably, but all women seem to have some sort of reaction at Orgasm.

It’s up to you to discover your current sex partner’s tells and figure out when she is showing she is cumming.

Summing it Up

I’m not going to say it is so easy and you can tell when every woman orgasms every time but I will say you can tell when any woman cums if you pay attention. If you want to be a good sex partner you should be paying attention anyways, you can’t be a good lover if you don’t pay attention during sex. If you are like me you prefer to be a great powerful lover you will be very aware of everything your sexual partner is doing and respond accordingly. I love the fact that any woman I sleep with is the lucky one, it’s empowering and it gives you serious sexual confidence.

About Science of Natural Game

I understand what it’s like to be that guy who struggles with women. I was god awful with women, I not once but twice went multiple years without sex, and I promise it wasn’t by choice. Ignorance played a large role in my issues with women, if I would have known now back in the days my dating life would have never slouched. I got desperate for affection with women, I wished I could have more. I read those pick up manuals, I read books by scientists on courtship. I went out and experienced what worked for me, and what “worked for others”. I found a process that makes every man skilled with women. I realized something else, yeah some of this stuff might work for some guys but we are all a little different and that’s a good thing… what I say may not be what you say, but there is a simple science and process to getting good with women and if you follow this process you will indeed be happy with your abilities with women. The most important thing for me is for you to be you, I don’t want to change who you are, I want you to love who you are, I want you to understand who you are, and I want you to be happy about all of it. I won’t ask you to dress up in peacocking outfit, I’ll ask you to be the most attractive guy by giving you skills and assets. Being you will be the peacock, will get you the attention of beautiful women. Most guys will simply tell you what to say and that will get you laid… but what happens when I am not here to tell you what to say? When what I have to say feels bland and not quite you? I don’t want you to be anyone else but you, the best you and the Man you want to be. I won’t tell you what to say, I’ll teach you to have a conversation. I won’t lie to you, I’ll tell you how it is and give you the facts. I won’t say it to be mean, I will say it for you to grow and become your best you with women and for you. I want you to be honest, knowledgeable, and sexy, and you will be when I’m done with you. Knowledge is power, and honesty is sexy…. I am not asking you to be anyone else, after all everyone else is already taken. If you need help or support with anything I am here, because I care about you. I want you to be a great, I want you to be all you can be. I want you to be your best self and that means I am here to support you in all your endeavors in life, not just with women but living the life you want… if you want to travel let’s figure out how, if you want to dance let’s teach you, if it’s weight loss let’s figure it out, if you want to surf let’s get you on a board, let’s give you the life you want and dream about, to let you be the you dream of being. I feel there is a process to getting women and more importantly getting good with women, it’s a science and if you follow the process it will work for you. Science isn’t about what’s true, as the truth is merely a perception science is the process we conclude will give us results… that’s what I give guys – results, the ability to get the women that will make them happy and help them live the life they love. Peace and Love, Vic


11 thoughts on “How to Tell when She really Cums: Signs of an Orgasm

  1. Nice one!

    Posted by olufemi omolade | 20/11/2012, 8:16 am
  2. My wife does many of the things you point out:

    1. Before she comes her upper chest area goes bright red, like a big rash from shoulder to shoulder.
    2. Her body goes as stiff as a board and her toes curl upwards.
    3. She shudders during the last 2-5 seconds of orgasm.
    4. We have that “gap” like suspended in time moment, where she she’s totally rigid and her face contorts into a very strange expression.
    5. Then when it’s over there’s a great “Sigghhhhh…” and she lies there looking 2-feet taller than a minute before.

    All very strange but as exciting and satisfying as hell to watch;). Kind of looks like she’s demon possessed.

    I just consider it a job well done!

    The only difference from everything you mention, is the bright blotchy reddening of the skin on her upper chest (between the shoulders and over the upper half of her breasts. My wife couldn’t hide her orgasm if she wanted to.

    Thanks Vic, another excellent piece.

    Posted by Ashto | 05/03/2013, 11:25 am
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  4. what is the difference between squirm and cum

    Posted by Nekesa Florence | 31/03/2013, 8:25 am
  5. what is the difference between squirm and cum?why is that some women can squirt and others no?is there any way a woman can generate squirm?

    Posted by Nekesa Florence | 31/03/2013, 8:28 am
    • Women don’t always squirm when they cum…. sometimes the gentlemen finishes before her. Women generally squirm before they cum if they are squirmers.

      A woman can learn the squirt but squirm is just natural for her, she loses control and begins to squirm. Squirting is more like a girl squirting stuff out of her urethra (similar to male ejaculation). Just search for an article if you’d like to learn to squirt.

      Peace and Love,


      Posted by Science of Natural Game | 01/04/2013, 12:25 am
  6. Bull shit I tried and it don’t work she thought I was crazy

    Posted by Andrew | 05/05/2013, 12:55 am
    • Every woman has different Orgasm “tells”… some women it’s nearly impossible to read… Others I feel it is absolutely impossible to read. I admit in the article you won’t always be able to tell, this simply a list of signs she did have an orgasm not an absolute.

      Peace and Love,


      Posted by Science of Natural Game | 05/05/2013, 9:18 am
  7. My problem is that when I play with my wife she just lays there and don’t make sounds or tells me she enjoys what I doing. I been asking her what I can due different and what should I due different. I wish I could get her to cum aND squirt like the first time we had sex. All my wife does is type me on my shoulder when she ready to get fuck but I feel bad because I don’t last long and no if my cock is big enough for her. I would love some advice back on this

    Posted by Jim Dillard | 15/02/2018, 2:28 pm


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