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I went to the bar with my buddy a few nights ago, we got into a good conversation about pick up. He is one of the few that knows about me interacting with the community. We talked about scripted game and alpha. The conversation was a very good conversation because we both agreed people try and be something they are not. I want to go over some thoughts we discussed throughout the conversation because they were so perfect for my style and philosophy on this whole thing we call pick up. This will be two parts because it ended up so long coming up next is Scripted/routines vs. Natural.
We talked about Alpha and to be completely honest in the community I’ve grown to hate the word Alpha. “How do I be Alpha?” “How can I look Alpha?” Or whatever other question a newb wants to ask. It’s not very difficult to understand why you want to be perceived as alpha. Alpha amongst the animals is the top dog, among any animal it’s the numero uno. Is it difficult to figure out that the number one animal in a natural selection environment is going to be aggressive? No, absolutely not the alpha dog is a bad ass, big and aggressive.
My problem with Alpha isn’t that you shouldn’t want to be the top dog or the number one, but that we miss perceive what Alpha is in humans. Alpha isn’t aggression or size in the human species, it is confidence. The difference between humans and other animals is when it comes to attraction (being the most attractive person) it isn’t centered on your physical attributes. At least for males attraction is so much more, a woman would rather have a guy with resources(wealthy guy) or a fun guy than a physically perfect guy (though a lot of woman consider the fun or wealthy guy hot as well). Two of the most attractive traits a man can have are confidence and a good sense of humor.
Alpha is so much more than size. That night my buddy said “You are huge, your presence fills the room.” It isn’t that I’m the biggest guy I’m 5’7. I’ve asked folks for help with things out of reach and they said “Why don’t you get it we are the same height”, this fool was 6 foot hardly the same arm reach. You guys I’m not saying this to stroke my ego (though it does feel pretty good), I’m saying it because you need to realize Alpha isn’t about size or strength. Look at guys like “The Three Foot Giant” Sean Stephenson, he is tiny physically but if you’ve ever watched him or met him in person you realize he is HUGE!
Your confidence is your presence, it is what makes you Alpha. Your confidence is your self-assurance, self-certainty, self-love, and self-deserving attitude. Confidence has a direct correlation to your happiness and your happiness has a direct correlation to your stress level. Confidence at least to me is about your happiness with your current place or your current direction in life.
There are different types of confidence, most people gain situational confidence in the community. Most don’t gain that True Core Confidence. Situational confidence is confidence within certain comfortable situations. Perhaps you get very good at night gaming women or you get good at using a routine, you are confident within that situation. Situational Confidence is comfort in a situation. This is where so many people go wrong when it comes to Pick Up, they gain confidence in a routine or open, they don’t gain that True Core Confidence. They gain comfort and happiness during the Pick Up but when it comes to the rest of their life they don’t have that True Core Confidence. That is why I have such a huge problem with scripted game, the Foundation of Natural Game is True Core Confidence.
My buddy and I were discussing DHV(demonstrating high value) and how people have to make things up to DHV. Well here is a hint guys, Confidence is high value. You lying about where you’ve been or your ex-girlfriend isn’t a confident behavior. The fact that you got comfortable lying about it isn’t good either.
You want true confidence? Get your shit together, give your life some direction. Your happiness relates heavily to your life direction. You won’t be happy just from fucking hundreds of women if you have no happiness with your place/direction in life. What is with guys and them thinking “oh if I sleep 100 women I’ll be happy!”? If you weren’t happy before you got laid you certainly won’t be happy afterward.
Is the guy who sleeps with 1000 different women living a better than guy who has only slept with two but he is married to one with a beautiful wife and children? I suppose it depends on who you ask. Happiness isn’t about what I want, what your buddy wants, or your parents, your confidence slash happiness is dependent on you knowing what You want.
1. What do you want? What is your life purpose? A family, a career, sleeping with 1000 women, meeting a great women, what? This may be to have a wonderful family, with a beautiful wife and a job as a ….. Or it may just be a career. Your purpose should be a “what you want in the end” and that isn’t always just one thing. Go write them down, type them up. MAKE SURE YOU INSCRIBE THEM SOMEWHERE.
After you figure out what your purpose is, what it is that is going to make you happy (not people around you), you need to figure out how you are going to go about doing it. How are you going to get what you want?
2. Research what you have to do to get the ball rolling. I.E. Do you want to be a psychologist? Where are you going to go to school or where do you want to? Don’t be a pessimist but be sure when you research you keep your goals realistic. Have all that information gathered and put them with your life purpose.
Now you got an idea of what you want to do in life, you know how to get there, and now you need to go out and start doing. This is very important to being happy, it is knowing what you want in life and knowing you are heading in the right direction. Not just knowing the direction to go but to actually start heading in that direction.
3. GET STARTED. If you want to be a psychologist, start applying to schools. Start getting in schools. Don’t however sit there with all this information and not use it.
I’m not going to be going completely into confidence that is only the beginning not the end. It is just very important to gain True Core Confidence to know where you plan on ending up in your life. You can’t lose sight of the fact that there is a big picture.
Peace and Love,