Attraction, Body Language, Courtship, Initial Attraction

The Body Language of Lowdnes’ Perfect Pick Up

I enjoy reading Leil Lowdnes a ton. She gives a great perspective on females, is well educated, and words things in a way that is easy to understand. In her book Undercover Sex Signals she gives what she considers the body language of the perfect pick up.  It’s mainly just Perper’s observations but I’m going to list her steps because I think they are true to the natural courtship process.

  1. When you walk up to a woman rather than engage her head on, you walk up or sit beside her. You walk up with a pace that isn’t threatening in speed. Then you turn your head toward her as your first step so that you don’t engage her full on. Start small talk.
  2. You slowly turn your torso. Not in a way to be directly facing her but in a way where you begin to angle your torso in their direction in a nonthreatening way that shows interest.
  3. Your body faces her body at a comfortable pace.  This means your body’s eventually face each other completely and you close yourselves off to everyone in the area.
  4. As you guys start to face each other you start to lean in closing the distance. There is a magnetic pull with our attraction and we lean in to close the distance.
  5. Again don’t be over responsive, lean in when the attraction and comfort is there.Start to copy body language. You start falling in sync and naturally start copying body language. This is what we do when we have a lot of rapport with someone regardless but in courtship you will be facing each other entirely.

This is a good basic model to follow when it comes to nonthreatening escalation while building on initial attraction.


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I understand what it’s like to be that guy who struggles with women. I was god awful with women, I not once but twice went multiple years without sex, and I promise it wasn’t by choice. Ignorance played a large role in my issues with women, if I would have known now back in the days my dating life would have never slouched. I got desperate for affection with women, I wished I could have more. I read those pick up manuals, I read books by scientists on courtship. I went out and experienced what worked for me, and what “worked for others”. I found a process that makes every man skilled with women. I realized something else, yeah some of this stuff might work for some guys but we are all a little different and that’s a good thing… what I say may not be what you say, but there is a simple science and process to getting good with women and if you follow this process you will indeed be happy with your abilities with women. The most important thing for me is for you to be you, I don’t want to change who you are, I want you to love who you are, I want you to understand who you are, and I want you to be happy about all of it. I won’t ask you to dress up in peacocking outfit, I’ll ask you to be the most attractive guy by giving you skills and assets. Being you will be the peacock, will get you the attention of beautiful women. Most guys will simply tell you what to say and that will get you laid… but what happens when I am not here to tell you what to say? When what I have to say feels bland and not quite you? I don’t want you to be anyone else but you, the best you and the Man you want to be. I won’t tell you what to say, I’ll teach you to have a conversation. I won’t lie to you, I’ll tell you how it is and give you the facts. I won’t say it to be mean, I will say it for you to grow and become your best you with women and for you. I want you to be honest, knowledgeable, and sexy, and you will be when I’m done with you. Knowledge is power, and honesty is sexy…. I am not asking you to be anyone else, after all everyone else is already taken. If you need help or support with anything I am here, because I care about you. I want you to be a great, I want you to be all you can be. I want you to be your best self and that means I am here to support you in all your endeavors in life, not just with women but living the life you want… if you want to travel let’s figure out how, if you want to dance let’s teach you, if it’s weight loss let’s figure it out, if you want to surf let’s get you on a board, let’s give you the life you want and dream about, to let you be the you dream of being. I feel there is a process to getting women and more importantly getting good with women, it’s a science and if you follow the process it will work for you. Science isn’t about what’s true, as the truth is merely a perception science is the process we conclude will give us results… that’s what I give guys – results, the ability to get the women that will make them happy and help them live the life they love. Peace and Love, Vic


12 thoughts on “The Body Language of Lowdnes’ Perfect Pick Up

  1. Some great tips here! Body language is truly fascinating and one of the most important tools for self confidence. Thanks for sharing!

    Posted by Peek Inside Her Mind (@PeekInHerMind) | 27/03/2012, 12:32 am
    • Thanks, more body language courtship info coming up soon. Body Language is far and away the best thing I’ve learned, it has taught me how to interact with people and understand them on a whole new level. It tells you everything you want to know, you just need to pay attention.

      Posted by Show Your Mind | 27/03/2012, 4:48 am
  2. Body language is so important in a relationship! You said a lot of good stuff here!

    Posted by serenityluv1 | 29/03/2012, 12:51 am
  3. This is basic PUA 101 stuff here.Newbies should’ve already known this.

    Posted by Socialkenny | 16/06/2012, 2:30 pm
    • Funny that it’s considered basic when I see young PUAs fuck this up all the time. It’s basic not to go direct but still many men don’t follow a woman’s response curve and start facing her before she’s ready.

      It should be basic but it’s not, most men don’t take a nonthreatening approach.

      Posted by The Science of Natural Game | 16/06/2012, 2:43 pm
  4. BTW I never heard of her nor her book.

    It can’t be revolutionary when what she’s teaching has been taught in the community for years.

    Posted by Socialkenny | 16/06/2012, 2:32 pm
    • Revolutionary? Who said it was revolutionary? What’s your beef man? Have you read anything that you didn’t agree with?

      The community teaches a lot of bull shit, that’s not the focus of my style. If you watched me work you wouldn’t think I was a PUA at all(don’t consider myself one).

      If you read the book you might learn something buddy, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. It’s a book based on nonverbal courtship behaviors, reading women’s attraction and escalating.

      Posted by The Science of Natural Game | 16/06/2012, 2:46 pm
  5. i need up date abut this complimenting a woman. It really interesting thanks……..

    Posted by elvis | 08/02/2013, 3:46 pm


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