Her Minor Courtship Advances: Understanding Overtures
A woman does a lot of little things in courtship. It is really impressive with a basic understanding of body language how much attraction is out there and even crazier how many little signs there are that men just absolutely 100% miss. A woman shows initial attraction all the time, I’ve received attraction signals from tons of women in relationships. It’s no big deal Attraction is everywhere just because someone is attracted doesn’t mean they are going to act on it.
One major thing men never notice is an overture. Men seem to have this belief that we are the ones in charge of leading the interaction. That is absolutely false, women control the interaction. They allow the interaction. They set us up to have an interaction. Some women are very direct and introduce themselves, while others send far more subtle overtures. Those are the things we are going to go over.
What is an Overture? An overture is when a woman gives you the opportunity to interact and all you have to do is respond to it in a way that would be attractive and interesting. It is when she does something slight hoping to give you an “in” to talk to her. Guess what? Women send them all the time, in tons of settings, from the grocery store to the book store to the bar to the club. Women send them everywhere, it is a natural part of attraction. When you don’t respond to her at least in her eyes quite obvious overture you are denying her.
Women do lots of little things that we never notice, the important thing is to understand what we as humans do. We offer opportunity in whatever way we can when we are attracted to someone. As men we walk by more often, we stand closer, we get in the line of sight, we look for basically any possible way to interact with this person we are attracted to.
Well the same thing is true of women. When I go to out I notice every little overture a woman sends, and women send them by the boat load. They are so simple and yet we as men are so caught up in our own trip and insecurities that we miss them. We focus on ourselves and what we should say and bla bla bla, we don’t realize all you need to do is start the conversation they have already offered to have.
So what does this offer look like? One great example is that small even two to three second pause while she walks by. It is when she literally stops in front of you and sends some small signal that we as guys never notice. That head whip, head turn, the look down, hair stroke, etc. are all a part of the cluster she is sending with her overture.
Another example of an overture is when a woman slowly walks by and sends those little signals. She is giving you opportunity to interact by walking at a pace that makes it easy for you to open her. You need to start to notice all these little attraction ques. They are stopping in front or slowly walking by just to give you opportunity to talk, and all you have to do is be the responsive confident man.
Repeated exposure is something a woman does to send an overture, and what I mean by that is she walks by multiple times. She finds ways to get in your eye sight and make eye contact. Again while this repeated exposure may seem incidental (and it can be) it is important to realize that often times a person only walks in front of you several times because they are attracted.
When a woman finds a way to stand close with no apparent reason and sends those little signals she is sending an overture. It may not seem so obvious to you guys but it is abundantly clear to women that they are showing attraction and giving you opportunity to interact. I can’t stress enough how important it is to respond to her overture and how easy courtship is when you are a responsive male. Obviously if you are in a high traffic area it could merely be incidental.
As men we need to step outside of ourselves, our emotions, and our thoughts to just observe the behavior she is exhibiting and it becomes quite obvious she is giving us an opportunity to interact. You need only pay attention to the fact that she is sending them and open her as a response. You can use an observational opener, introduce yourself, or just say something like “Hi, what’s up?” Remember she opened you in reality, you need only keep her interest and build attraction further.