Attraction, Body Language, Courtship, Initial Attraction

Being the Responsive Male- Getting to Sex at a Comfortable Pace

When it comes to courtship every woman is different. It is very important to realize each woman has their own personal response curve and even her response curve changes with her mood. It’s important to continue the courtship process without making her uncomfortable or the attraction can die and you turn into creepy or clingy.

So how do you tell a woman’s response curve? You listen to what her body language is showing you. She is telling you exactly how she feels about you. Every woman is telling you something. She is saying I’m comfortable, I’m not comfortable. I’m attracted, I’m not attracted. I’m attracted but not comfortable enough. I’m not attracted but comfortable. I’m attracted and I’m comfortable enough. It is up to you to know which message she is sending and escalate the courtship process comfortably.

The secret to escalation with women isn’t about forcing yourself on them, it’s about responding to her at her pace. Women are comfortable moving much faster than you realize. How fast a woman offers touch a lot quicker than we (men) would like to believe. David Givens’ fourth phase before sex is touch and frankly you can’t escalate the courtship process without both accepting and reciprocating the touch she is offering.

In courtship most men think that we make the first move. We are the ones going over to them, from our perspective that is making the first move but really we are responding to them. Women send approach ques and it is our job to respond to them. It is our job to respond to them throughout the courtship process and move at a speed that they will accept and allow us to pursue that final phase, sex.

As attraction builds our bodies become like magnets drawn toward the thing we are most attracted to, we close the distance in many subtle ways. One way we show our attraction is through torso angle and torso lean. Our body faces what we are most attracted to, if her torso is facing you she is likely very attracted. Our torso also tells us whether they are retreating or attracted, if they are leaning in basically closing the distance they are attracted to you. Torso lean will also tell you how engaged in the conversation she is.

As this begins to happen you will subconsciously or should consciously start to mirror her to build rapport. It also puts you guys into sync which was Timothy Perper’s final phase before sex. It is always good to mirror someone’s body language just to build rapport but when attraction is built it helps build a connection.

By this point she will likely be physically reaching out to you or showing you intent actions. When they do this they will likely be using illustrators, intent actions (hands reaching in your direction), or just outright touching you. You need to react by accepting her touch confidently, that means meeting her half way. If she reaches out you can reach out to touch her forearm, a nonthreatening acceptance of her escalation. If she is offering her hand you can reach out and grab her hand, really you are just accepting her touch.

Escalation will change at floor level as well, your guys’ feet will begin to come closer and in some cases even touch. If you guys are sitting across from each other you may start “playing footsie” flirting with your feet touching. If you are standing your feet will start to scoot closer. The feet are used on a very subconscious level you don’t think about walking or running, you just do it. If you are moving your feet closer to someone you are very comfortable with them. When their feet move closer it is sometimes ok to move your feet forward and other times it isn’t. It is usually best to add touch once your feet meet in the intimate zone (18 inches to touch); a foot moving closer is often times an intent action.

I went over specifics in responding to a woman at her response rate but they are just really examples of what happens throughout the courtship process. Even if she isn’t offering touch it doesn’t mean she isn’t willing to accept your escalation. It does however mean she isn’t as comfortable “making the first move.” You should pay attention to whether she is comfortable with your escalation, with you closing the distance, touching, or moving touch to more erotic areas on her body. If you are the responsive man and respond at her pace the courtship process will be easy and comfortable for the both of you. You will receive very little resistance and when you do you merely need to add more comfort and/or sexual tension for an easy path to completing the courtship process to sex.

This isan OLD video so the quality is lacking but content is golden.


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I understand what it’s like to be that guy who struggles with women. I was god awful with women, I not once but twice went multiple years without sex, and I promise it wasn’t by choice. Ignorance played a large role in my issues with women, if I would have known now back in the days my dating life would have never slouched. I got desperate for affection with women, I wished I could have more. I read those pick up manuals, I read books by scientists on courtship. I went out and experienced what worked for me, and what “worked for others”. I found a process that makes every man skilled with women. I realized something else, yeah some of this stuff might work for some guys but we are all a little different and that’s a good thing… what I say may not be what you say, but there is a simple science and process to getting good with women and if you follow this process you will indeed be happy with your abilities with women. The most important thing for me is for you to be you, I don’t want to change who you are, I want you to love who you are, I want you to understand who you are, and I want you to be happy about all of it. I won’t ask you to dress up in peacocking outfit, I’ll ask you to be the most attractive guy by giving you skills and assets. Being you will be the peacock, will get you the attention of beautiful women. Most guys will simply tell you what to say and that will get you laid… but what happens when I am not here to tell you what to say? When what I have to say feels bland and not quite you? I don’t want you to be anyone else but you, the best you and the Man you want to be. I won’t tell you what to say, I’ll teach you to have a conversation. I won’t lie to you, I’ll tell you how it is and give you the facts. I won’t say it to be mean, I will say it for you to grow and become your best you with women and for you. I want you to be honest, knowledgeable, and sexy, and you will be when I’m done with you. Knowledge is power, and honesty is sexy…. I am not asking you to be anyone else, after all everyone else is already taken. If you need help or support with anything I am here, because I care about you. I want you to be a great, I want you to be all you can be. I want you to be your best self and that means I am here to support you in all your endeavors in life, not just with women but living the life you want… if you want to travel let’s figure out how, if you want to dance let’s teach you, if it’s weight loss let’s figure it out, if you want to surf let’s get you on a board, let’s give you the life you want and dream about, to let you be the you dream of being. I feel there is a process to getting women and more importantly getting good with women, it’s a science and if you follow the process it will work for you. Science isn’t about what’s true, as the truth is merely a perception science is the process we conclude will give us results… that’s what I give guys – results, the ability to get the women that will make them happy and help them live the life they love. Peace and Love, Vic


11 thoughts on “Being the Responsive Male- Getting to Sex at a Comfortable Pace

  1. “You should pay attention to whether she is comfortable with your escalation, with you closing the distance, touching, or moving touch to more erotic areas on her body.”
    There is a lot to be said about communicating consent and keeping time with what your partner wants. Body language only goes so far when alcohol is involved.

    Nothing gets me wetter than the build up of sex through banter and flirting. A man must be able to fuck my mind first before he can fuck anything else. A man that can make me laugh…. is an absolute wet dream. There are so many ways a man can say he wants to fuck you other than just saying “U want 2 Fuck?’. Great piece!

    Posted by snarkysnatch | 15/03/2012, 7:22 pm
  2. I’m quite tickled by you Snatch! I didn’t think I’d make the list of things to read in your busy weblebrity life. Thanks so much for your addition and the compliment.

    I have to say this account was initially started for guys asking help about body language. I kind of gear it to them but I suppose I really need to branch out. Talking dirty is definitely a skill that needs to be acquired and used to build sexual tension, I love building tension.To the point where it is literally unavoidable to go without sex. Building attraction is the first step, building sexual tension is the next. I’d love to have a conversation with you. You could probably teach me a thing or two, and I’m already a lot better versed then most men.

    A woman’s sexual satisfaction is completely reliant on the mind. I’ve studied rape victims and their issues with sex. Along with studies on women who had little or no sexual satisfaction. I wanted to learn to satisfy every women. Having an orgasm for a women is completely cerebral, that is why products that increase blood flow to a woman’s genitals don’t help with sexual appetite. I am planning to write about it soon, it is on my 25 article plus list. I’ve gotten a couple different women to the point where they were anchored to cum when I said certain statements. Could you imagine what it is like to cum on demand?

    I understand how powerful the mind is and especially in regards to sex, it can release euphoria or it can release anguish, but at the end of the day it is all in your mind. Learning to have a healthy outlook on sex is vital to enjoying life and especially having a happy relationship.

    I’m a gonna send you a message I think I got a great idea for another collaboration, some advice as well.

    Posted by Show Your Mind | 16/03/2012, 4:42 am


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