Too many times we say sorry over text. Sorry this, or sorry that, I’m not someone who is afraid to apologize, and I think a grown man should always own up to his mistakes and be willing to apologize but that doesn’t mean I’m going to apologize for taking a little too long to text back. Or because something got miss-read, I am going to text back “my bad I meant” bla bla bla. You don’t want to be too submissive, but you do want to be a humble man.
Every Rule is Made to be Broken
Ever little rule I said can be gone against just make sure it is within reason. I guess I’d prefer these aren’t rules but guidelines. You guys are trying to be an attractive person who isn’t desperate something that guys do way to often is show desperation and too much emotion through text. So yeah here and there you will be texting before they text back, but it will be for a very good reason (perhaps you are trying to find her at the bar or a concert or whatever). You will text back before twice as long. You’ll apologize, or text more serious then good. The point is to realize when it is a good idea to cross the rules and when it is just a bad idea.
Play the Game
I’ve gone over several tools you can use to keep her on the hook, you play the game. Play the game guys, courtship is a game, you have to flirt a little and be serious. You have to be available and but not to available. You need to push and pull. You need to cross the line and step back behind it. You need to give her attention and not be smothering.
This is a game, make no mistake and it is a game we all play. It is important to keep in mind attraction is like an interview you are interviewing for the position. I always loved Van Wilder’s quote when Tara Reid says “It’s not a date, it’s an interview.” His response “First dates are interviews.” You are still in your interview when you are texting so make sure the interview goes swimmingly.
Take Your Time and Proof Read
One last bit of advice guys. Texting is a beautiful thing because you have the opportunity to think about what you are saying, take advantage of this remember to take your time. Sometimes you will need a response that is within the tone of the conversation other times you need an abrupt change to get the conversation in a different direction(away from where it is going). It is important to take your time and figure out where your conversation is going. Don’t dwell on the conversation but don’t rush it either.
Proof read, please don’t forget to read what you send BEFORE you send it. A lot of times we send a text, then read it and go “oh shit.” Or you send the message to the wrong person, make sure you know who you are responding to and while your texts don’t need to be perfect, poor spelling and wording can reflect poorly on you. Auto-correct is blessing and obnoxious, your phone may put the wrong word in when start typing or even finish typing, so pay attention.
If you guys have anything you would like to add or ask about feel free. You are always welcome to improve on what I know.