I have talked about joking and not being bland, but it is just as important to realize there needs to be a serious you here and there. Otherwise she’ll never know when you are serious about meeting up. I read in a book on text game that you need a 6 joking comments to 1 serious one. I am not sure you need to go by that exact ratio but it is a great illustration of how often we should add in some seriousness. You don’t want to be too serious or you will never get her attention.
Timing texts is very important. You should not be snap responding unless she has been, even then I prefer to make them wait. You don’t want to appear to be waiting for their texts. I don’t want you to be rude when there is a time frame. Your goal is to show you don’t care about the interaction as much. A good rule of thumb is to take twice as long but with in reason. So if she takes 10 you take 20, this isn’t going to be true of every text but you don’t want to make yourself too available.
Texting Without a Response
Don’t be the repeat texter, don’t keep texting her before she answers, give them a chance. It looks pretty sad and desperate when you text ongoing and don’t wait for an answer. It’s one thing if you are explaining something and so you have to keep going but you shouldn’t just keep texting before they respond.
The 3 Day Rule
Don’t text the first day or next day, go by the 3 day rule. Obviously if you made plans for the next day it is fine but make sure to not make yourself to available. If you are texting the night you get her number it may go well, but it is just as likely to go poorly. I have a buddy that always started texting the night he got her number, in retrospect he reminds of Ted off How I Met Your Mother, I tried to get him to knock it off. It makes you appear a little desperate like you never get a girls number. He wasted easily over 5 numbers by coming on way too strong, remember each woman has her own response curve, too much she is overwhelmed, not enough she gives up.
If you want to text same day start flirting through text right there.
“Hey just met this cute girl I think she is into me what you think, she into me?”
“I’m trying to talk to this really sexy girl, what do you think she is into?”
You want to start flirting right then if you want to break the 3 day rule. Make sure that you are a guy that is different that means starting the tone of flirting conversation right then and there.
Emoticons are something that gets misused. They are great in correct doses, horrible if over used and can be detrimental to your tone if you don’t use them. I put all the little: lol, jk, lmao, and all that together with emoticons, you should use them but if you over use them, they lose their value along with you. So use them if you don’t think the tone will be understood but at the same time don’t use them if you have been joking a bit because she will know what you are trying to say. I do rarely use the jk, it should be seen by the tone of the conversation.