Alright so not to long ago a girl I referred to a sexy green eyed girl that hooked up with the guitarist from a band. This girl and I have been texting back and forth, and we finally got an opportunity to hang out. She text me while I was at work asking whether we could hang out while she was waiting for her friend to play a show(a different friend, apparently she know a lot of kids that play in bands). We met up at the bar. However we parked probably like a block apart. So I called her because she didn’t know where the bar was.
I was watching for her as she walked up, I noticed her adjusting her hair and straightening her clothes in the distance. She was already preening. It was obvious she was preparing for me from a distance.
When she got to me finally. We greeted each other and she gave me a hug. This hug like my other friends hug was hip to hip and facing me. Hip to hip is very important, if we aren’t attracted we tend to separate our hips, putting distance between our sexual parts on an unconscious level.
We walked into the bar to meet up with her friend playing an acoustic set. We sat down with her friends. I noticed when we sat down the type of attention she would give her friend. I was base lining her behavior, I noticed when she talked to him she wasn’t preening. You should always pay attention to her behavior in relation to you vs. her relation to other males she is interacting with. This is something I paid close attention to, the first time we hung out she preened a lot.
When we sat down she would look at me, look down, smile, and preen, a cluster. At this table full of other men, including her friend who she came to watch, she faced her torso toward me. He was showing strong attraction signs to her as well. He put his foot up on her chair, and then kept leaning in to talk to her. You could see he was trying to close the distance and raise touch. He was using stories to build value.
I would flirt back and forth with her and we would have a little conversation. I interacted with everyone at the table. Joking around and being me. Then I would look back at her and we would flirt some with our body language. What I mean by this is we would make eye contact and make faces at each other jokingly. What we would do would be copy each other’s face, copy her posture. We were being like each other. Copying body language is one of my favorite ways to flirt. You guys should try it, it works all the time.
When we were flirting her torso would be facing me and her torso would lean toward me when we talked. This girl would touch me, while in the other case with the male flirting with her she was showing attention but not with the same distance closing and certainly not a matched amount of preening with her eye contact with me. You can tell who the action is directed at by eye contact and the timing of the sign.
When her friend went on we switched sides of the table. When we switched sides we ended up sitting closer. She continued her preening and leaned her torso in. This was a kicker though, our feet were, close or touching at points in time. This sounds very small but we move our feet away from people we aren’t attracted to, but when we sit at a table and our feet are close there is an obvious attraction(especially at a 6 person table) when she gets her feet close. You can tell if someone isn’t attracted because their feet will retreat.
When we sat closer we also touched more, and continued copying each others body language. There was a lot more eye contact and while they were playing we barely paid attention. We were a bit ingrained in the conversation with each other. You could see she was really attracted when she leaned into me and put her hands and arm around mine.
We chatted a bit when her friend got back to the table after his set. I had to go meet another friend, we walked out together and we hugged and parted, she had work in the morning and that guy was still all over her. I wasn’t going to be one of her minions, we texted later that night for a second.