Ok guys, in my last blog I talked a little about what I noticed about attraction with Saphire. Now I am going to go a bit more over what I did. Attraction is a simple and complicated process, it’s so simple because either they are attracted or they are not. After that it is simply a matter of how attracted they are to you.
Before I get there I want to give some of theories I believe on attraction:
What Successful People Do
When it comes to attraction I like to paraphrase something I have read in multiple business and success books. Successful people do the opposite of everyone else. The money is made in business by doing what no one else is doing. When things are under priced you tend to buy and when they are overpriced you sell. Right now all the successful real estate investors are buying up all the foreclosures and using this situation to their advantage. Successful stock market investors are buying the hell out of the under priced stocks and will sell them for a huge profit when the economy improves.
So what I mean by this if all the other guys are walking up to a girl and creepily standing around you want to be the smooth guy walking up and introducing yourself, not staring at them while standing next to them. If you are in a group environment and everyone is hovering around one girl you should be the life of the group without paying attention to her. If all the guys are intimidated by the girl and avoiding talking to her on the other hand, you need to be the one with balls that will go up to her, then you will be the interesting one doing the opposite of everyone else.
He Who Cares the Least Controls the Interaction
This is pretty basic. I learned this before I knew anything about pick up and it makes perfect sense. This isn’t just true of a courtship interaction, this is the same with business, friendship. The person who cares the least always holds the cards, also true in poker.
This is true of every relationship, there needs to be a power balance. There needs to be a yin to balance out the yang and vice verse. However, in courtship you want the power balance to be in favor of you. The power balance has a direct correlation to my other thought the person who cares the least owns the power.
Timothy Perper talked in his book about how every woman has a different response curve. If you over respond to some woman they dismiss you and if you aren’t responsive enough they will dismiss you. In attraction there is a nook you need to find in there. You need to make sure you stay within her Response curve, if you pay too much attention she will not be interested if. If however you pay too little attention she will not feel intrigued enough and move on after a moment. It is up to you to be in the sweet spot.