So I roll down to meet some friends for one of my girl friend’s birthday, actual friend I was the best man at the wedding. As of late I have an abundance of confidence, been hanging with a few different girls, so ignoring girls and denying them is no biggie currently. My body language was impressive, confident, “alpha”, and seemed to attract a lot of attention.
While there I was the social guy, always am. I interacted with a lot of people. The girl in the next booth over with 4 guys at the table, like I said my confidence was high. As I joked around I noticed there was an attractive girl that was by extension part of my group. She was a super cute girl so I just went to work on her a little. I would flirt here and there but mostly didn’t pay attention to her. I after all was talking to everyone.
Before I even began to interact I knew there was attraction. This girl was looking over pretty often and would make eye contact, smile, and look down. This is a common cluster, if you pay attention you will see it everywhere. It’s such a minor thing that we tend to not pay attention. People tend to be pessimists so when they look away we seem to assume that looking away is negative a common misconception. The Look Down is everywhere and you will realize how much initial attraction is out there just from this sign alone.
The next thing I noticed was she would preen. She would adjust her appearance here and there right after eye contact, this was also a part of the cluster. She would pull her shirt down or adjust how it hung over her shoulder. You guys will notice shirt straightening a lot.
As I observed I noticed slight preening of her hair. She would run her fingers through her hair. You guys will see this happen more and more often. Girls do this when they get out of the pool too, they do this to separate the hair and make it look better. If you look around you will see it a lot at a club.
Her torso when ever we began to talk would start to face me and she would lean in while we talked. Torso body language is very simple to master and it is very subconscious so it is pretty reliable when it comes to noticing interest. We lean towards what we like and away from what we don’t. On this girl she would lean towards me and talk towards my ear.
She closed the distance. We stand a lot closer to people we are attracted to and further from people we aren’t attracted. Think of attraction as a magnet, we are pulled towards things we are attracted to. We run from things we aren’t attracted to.
At some point she began to touch me quite often. She would mask it with playfully hitting me as we joked. I would make some small remarks and she would say whatever and playfully hit me. We would end up shoulder to shoulder flirting. You can get a girl comfortable with touch by approaching her in a non threatening way, standing beside them is just that you are not in her face and are touching her in a non-sexual way(to start). Not only do you close the distance but it doesn’t seem confrontational. More innocent in fact.
As we joked around I told her “How can you be hitting me? We don’t even know each other’s names.” She would open up to me and look over at me when she was talking to other guys. She was the cute girl in the group and I was the only one not all over her or about her. She wasn’t any better looking then any of the girls I’ve been hanging around. She put her hand on my arm and we put our arms around each other for brief moments. Then I would just walk off, I guess it is great having an abundance attitude.
On the walk out we were all saying our good byes. She and I were bumping shoulders and flirting. As we walked out, she asked me if I was going to come to the “after party” going to this guys spot to play beer pong. I remember mentioning something about I don’t go around with strangers. She finally introduced herself and kept trying to get me to go. I decided rather than go to a cock fest where all these guys were trying to hook up with one girl I would just bounce. I will do a second blog on just how I built attraction.