Situation: Went to the bar to celebrate my friends birthday, I only stayed for a few minutes because I had another birthday party to attend. I also was suppose to make an appearance at my buddy’s spot. Twas’ a a busy night, here are the few signals I seen in the 3o minutes I was around the birthday girl.
This girl and I have hung out a few times and though the opportunity has presented itself I have not been to interested regardless of the easy close. I’ve noticed she has been attracted to me for a while, I even got her number while her ex-BF went to the restroom one night. I have known her since way before they were in a relationship though.
So I showed up to the bar, a pretty popular spot in my area it has a solid population. It was relatively busy, I actually had to go find them. When I finally came upon her I realized that she had a small group already. I walked up to see her and I noticed as I walked up and made eye contact her upper leg(her legs were crossed) began moving. She was gaining “happy feet”, when we are happy we begin to move our lower limbs.
We smiled at each other along with our eye contact and I said happy birthday. When I walked up though her toes started to point directly at me. You guys will notice this subconscious sign everywhere, it isn’t always a sign of attraction, it generally points at the person they are most interested in. More often then not this is the person we are attracted to.
She happens to wear glasses, her constant form of preening when we made eye contact was her adjusting her glasses. She would stroke her hair, here and there but the majority of her preening was her pushing her glasses up. I don’t want to discount things, there were clothing adjustments and she did grab her earring on a couple of occasions along with the hair adjustment but her main insecurity appeared to be her glasses(which I’ve noticed in the past).
When we spoke she made strong eye contact and she nodded in affirmation. Her head seemed to bobble while she laughed at my occasional witty comments. It was obvious and anyone of you guys who have a minor understanding of body language could see she had a major difference in body language toward me and she directed an unusual amount of attention to me in a group atmosphere where she was the center of attention. This is taking context into consideration something all of you guys should be doing when reading body language.
I also noticed that she tipped her head slightly to her left when we talked, as if she was not only listening attentively but exposing her neck as a submissive sign. Something like this is slight and should merely be added to your “case file” of signals in understanding how attracted she is to you. When a women is attracted to you she will start doing submissive signals, this includes neck exposure, wrist and palm exposure, and full torso exposure. When we are uncomfortable around someone we protect ourselves by crossing our arms, hiding our neck, generally closing off and protecting vital areas.
When we relocated to a larger area she still had her body(torso) face me and have her feet point toward me. She was showing an obvious attraction to me in a lot of ways. Torso, preening, feet, smile, submissive signals, personal attention, and exaggerated laugh, all helped me see her obvious attraction.
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So far the videos out are Alpha body language, Preening, Submissive signals, Deciphering body language, Rapport-Isopraxism, and Arousal. This coming week’s video will be another rapport video. Next weeks will be comfortable vs. uncomfortable body language. Send in suggestions for videos, that is how I’m doing it as of right now.