Ok we’ve talked about common overtures, ones you see everywhere. There are even more I’m sure of it but these sixteen will be pretty noticeable NOW. They will also help you notice when she’s sending you a message. So now let’s move on to sending the right message.
How on earth do you advertise yourself to get these signals? You show them your a mature attractive mate. So the next question becomes how do you advertise this with your body language? You emphasize your masculinity and show off your -in Miller’s words- “sexual ornaments”. You advertise your Sexual Ornaments and show “likeness” traits. Here is a list of things you can do on a dance floor to do this:
1. Dancing- Learn to dance, you don’t have to be a ridiculous dancer. It does help but just learn to dance. Don’t worry nobody dances perfectly to the beat, just dance without you getting too wacky in an unattractive way.
2. Territory- Take up some space. Flail your arms a little, don’t be afraid to move around and show that you have a large territory. The territory can be viewed as a sexual ornament and the more space you have the larger your sexual ornament, pun intended. Don’t be afraid to move your feet around as well, taking up more territory.
3. Shoulders- Men have wider shoulders then women, it’s not too hard to notice this observation. When you dance keep your shoulders wide, advertise your masculinity. I will move my shoulders with rhythm often times.
4. Hips- Hip thrusts let them know you are capable of subconsciously at least of impregnation. Obviously don’t act like you are currently indulging in intercourse but definitely don’t be afraid of a little hip motion to let them get an idea of your instinctual capabilities.
5. Rhythm- Like hip movement you showing you can dance with rhythm to a beat means you can match the beat of something(or someone) else. This is obviously very important in courtship and so this can help quite a bit.
6. Bring Attention to “The Goods”- Bringing attention to your crotch by moving your hands in the area or adjusting your belt is a sign of masculinity. Think about the Marlboro man and how he would grab his belt buckle, hard to call that feminine. Don’t hide your hands in your pocket or grab your junk but definitely bring some attention in some way to your masculinity and let’s face it the the representative route of masculinity is the penis.
7. Have Fun- Robert Sapolsky did a study on the alphas in a community of bonobo primates. The “alphas” or the high status community members had a lower chemical amount of glucocorticoids then the low status community members. The high status also had higher dopamine levels, meaning they enjoyed life more. The “alphas” tend to have more fun, so going out and having a great stress free time advertises high status. Laugh and smile guys it raises your dopamine levels even when done consciously it forces you into a better mood.
I was planning on adding another part but these are the basics of looking like an attractive mate on the dance floor. I’ll put up one more hopefully tomorrow on accepting and extending invites using your body language. It’s really a pretty simple process and it will be pretty quick.