Situation: Me and a buddy went to a concert, before Black Joe Lewis and the Honey Bears came on they had their under card show, Those Darlins, a band with three women and a drummer. It would be wrong to call her the bass guitarist because they all played both the bass and the guitar through out the show. Quite talented trio of young women I must say. They put on a solid show and were well worth it. Anyways one of the cute young women was obviously attracted to my buddy. It was quite entertaining to watch as she sang and played and still gave my friend quite a bit of attention.
As I watched her play I noticed she was frequently making eye contact with my buddy. He was returning eye contact, and she was a cute girl, her being a musician made him all the more attracted to her. He though attracted is unavailable so me and him just watched as she payed quite a bit of attention to him.
Towards the beginning of the show, my buddy had noticed her giving him a look. I looked up and I noticed as well, so I joked with him a little. She was making strong eye contact and in my humble opinion she was holding it for a relatively long amount of time for someone who was suppose to be entertaining others. Obviously preening was impossible while she was playing the Bass(started out on bass then switched through out the show). What I did notice is because her hands were obviously in use, she was giving more attention as a substitute. It was as if every available moment she would give eye contact.
I noticed between sets, if she wasn’t tuning she would whip her hair after making eye contact. It was pretty interesting because of the lack of hand gesture possibilities more of the info had to be derived from the face, amount of attention, compared attention to others in the crowd, and torso angle and lean.
At first I notice a slight smirk on her face, strong eye contact. She was very much showing initial attractions signs with her facial reaction and her slightly turned head, something I somewhat dismiss due to her being on stage. Most of what I seen in her obvious attraction from my own intuition was the amount of attention she was giving him amongst a crowd. The other was her torso seemed to face more when she’d go to look at him.
I noticed that she was given the ability to walk towards him she did, her foot would point directly in his direction, while she stopped to sing along side her band mate. It was quite obvious that she was attracted to him but her body language was so much more difficult to put in description as she was on stage and her body language was required to say a certain thing.
After the show she made sure to walk by him, and when Black Joe Lewis and The Honey Bears came on she came and stood in the area we were. It was quite obvious she was sending him and overture with her body position, but once she made eye contact with the drummer she seemed to ignore him a little more.
I observed her as her foot pointed in his direction, she also seemed to be flirting with the drummer. She was obviously attracted to the drummer, while I seen her look at my buddy out the corner of her eye, and preen a couple times, it didn’t seem as distinct as when she was on stage. Perhaps she was trying to make her body language more discrete in the presence of the drummer.
In this particular case, her attraction was illustrated more through the extra attention he was getting , especially in addition to the slight smile, slight foot movements, and torso. I also had to take into consideration the amount of times she could show him attraction signals and how she could. It was far more difficult to interpret the message but the mine and my buddies obvious intuition regarding her behavior. She showed her attraction loud and clear and yet it was my intuition not my knowledge that helped me verify her attraction to him.