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Situation: Went to my favorite little neighborhood pub, was playing some pool and got to watch a great example of building attraction and escalation. A beautiful, dreamy legged girl was chatting with a gentlemen and when it started it was obvious the initial attraction was already present. They were sitting on stools facing each other with their drinks on the wall bar.
When I first noticed she gave a genuine flirting smile looking at him. Her eyes were smiling, the edges of her mouth were pointed up, she was obviously giving him some flirtatious eyes. While she did this she seemed to tip her head to the right as if to show a submissive gesture, exposing him to her neck. She would bobble her head as she laughed excessively, anytime a women thinks everything you say is funny she is attracted to you. You are making her feel good and the “happy” chemicals in her brain have increased. She would bite her lip pacifying herself, this in a lot of cases with upturned sides of the mouth is a sign of attraction and arousal. If you see this you can simply be quiet and perform the intimate gaze listening and build sexual tension for the kiss.
Her legs were crossed and they were pointing directly at him, they were sitting face to face, they were exposing all of their torso to each other. If you see a girl exposing her entire torso to you smiling, and making eye contact, she already has an initial attraction and if opportunity arises would immensely enjoy an approach.
Her foot was aimed directly at him. I noticed her dangling her feet and giving him happy feet, she was excited about the conversation and obviously attracted to him. Their bodies were facing everyone and it was as if they were alone in a room full of people easily ignoring the strangers. I noticed she occasionally would dangle her shoe off her foot just barely pulling her heal out.
She leaned her torso forward, she was trying to get closer. Often times we lean forward when it is a conversation we like, as if to engage it, however when the conversation isn’t impressive or we don’t like the person we lean away. One of the major differences between being attracted to someone and liking them is how we angle our bodies, when we like someone we usually give an angle to them. When we are attracted to them, we completely face them. Often times we will feel threatened when someone faces us like that and we aren’t attracted to them or don’t like them.
As the night went on I noticed that they were falling in sync more, she would take a drink and he would follow suit or vice verse. They would nod their heads in unison. It was quite obvious they were following the natural courtship process. One of the bigger steps according to Timothy Perper was falling in sync.
The preening was abundant with this one, she was very very attracted to him. She was almost constantly pushing her hair behind her ear. The occasional stroke to her hair was obvious. Preening is an obvious sign of attraction in every species, humans are no different. We widen our appearance improving by adding things such as jewelry adjustment, clothes straightening, hair adjustment (the one we all notice). In this case she was doing all of the above. When she went to use the rest room the first thing she did was push her hands down her clothes accentuating her curves.
One thing I noticed and you will start to notice is that women caress themselves, teasing and showing how they would like to be touched. This women was constantly sliding her hand down her leg. I noticed at some point she got cold because she crossed her arms, but her body was still open to him and showing strong signs of attraction. She didn’t appear to be upset but cold.
This was a can’t miss case, easy to tell she was attracted. She showed submissive signals, you will see a girl push her hair around her neck. Exposing you to her neck, a obvious submissive signal. She also had a limp wrist and as I said had the slight turned head exposing her neck. She had open palms and open wrists exposing him to very very sensitive points and something we all protect naturally.
This girl was giving every possible sign of attraction, preening(hair, close, accessories), leaning forward, exposing her whole torso, touching herself, eyes only for him, isopraxism, submissive signals, etc. As the night went on he finally became more responsive to all of her signals, they started getting closer, and though he was obviously attracted to her, he was not reciprocating near the behavior she was showing. Finally he jumped in for a quick test water kiss, then I noticed he back up as if to say I am not sure how that went. They eventually left together and though the touch didn’t escalate over time but rather quickly it was obvious they were in sync (one of the final phases before sex) and aroused as they left together.