Situation: Went to hangout with some friends at a bar after work, was given the opportunity to watch a guy and a girl hook up.
When me and my buddies were sitting at the table I looked over and noticed this girl and this guy were attracted to each other. There wasn’t the comfort of a long term relationship. The comfortable intimacy involved in any relationship wasn’t there.
I noticed when they walked up that she was attracted to him. She wasn’t just looking at him she was giving him all of her attention. She would occasionally stroke her hair preening, but in her particular case her preening was more related to clothing adjustment. She would pull her shirt down or straighten her pants. Finding ways to influence him to look towards her body.
When a women is attracted to a man she will not just pay more attention to the man seeking his attention. She wants him to recognize her overtures. This is the same as any of us guys looking over at a girl repeated until we get eye contact with them. When a girl sends a signal, we need to be responsive to it.
With this girl she was facing her torso towards him. In his case he wasn’t totally and completely sold on her. He was angled toward her, but to me not much more then he would talking to friends in a circle. Her torso was almost fully facing him while they were sitting “side by side” at the bar, it wasn’t completely side by side(angled toward each other some) I just felt it easiest to explain it that way. She was obviously attracted to him.
She had closed the space, there was very little to no space between them. This is very important when it comes to signals. If a women won’t get close to you she isn’t attracted to you(she needs to want to be close to you), if she keeps coming closer there is a very high probability she likes you. If she wants to be “close” to you it works both in figurative and real terms.
She would rub her hand down her arm occasionally illustrating her want to be touched. She would gently run her hand down her leg as well. A lot of times a girl will actually “show” you how she wants to be touched, whether she knows it or not.
She would lean over saying something into his ear. He stayed mostly neutral, his body was slightly angled into her while she was fully leaning towards him. Putting her head on his shoulder when she leaned over to talk to him. Whenever a girl is willing to show you her whole self by exposing all of her torso and leaning toward you, you have a very high likelihood of attraction.
I noticed her hand got moved up her thigh and then she rested her hand on his knee. She was trying her hardest to gain his attention. She was very aroused and she was doing her best with her overtures on arousing him. I didn’t get a great look at her pupils but they did appear to be dilated. She began to stroke his finger up and down. Anytime a women is sexually aroused she may begin to stroke a long cylindrical phallic symbol, in this case it was his finger.
She was tilting her head exposing her neck, giving him submissive signals. She would make eye contact and look down smiling at him. Her wrists were limp. She was showing many many submissive signals. Exposing neck, looking down, wrists exposed, wrists limp, she was submitting before him with obviousness.
This girl was all about him. She was preening, making strong eye contact, smiling, showing submissive body language, had her torso angled towards him. She was falling into sync with him. Often times when a girl is attracted to a man she will start to practice isopraxism, in her case she would take a drink when he did. Other times she would just follow his movements/mannerisms such as reaching out or lean forward when he did(she was facing him more than he was facing her).
This girl broadcast-ed her attraction to him all over the place, he knew it. Any of us would have noticed everything she was sending out. It was an easy hook up for him, though he appeared to have reservations based on the fact that he wasn’t very responsive to all of her overtures. He appeared quite smug as if he knew that it was sealed but not to interested behavior wise.