Situation: Same old Pub. Hanging out with my friends at the pub. Recognized some folks at a nearby table and wandered over to catch up with them, noticed a cute brunette at the table. At some point she began to show some signs of attraction.
When I was talking with one of my female friends and I noticed the Brunette’s eye contact was most often directed at me. Though she arrived with another gentlemen she was showing me the most attention of any of the people at their table. She was giving me a big smile and had a slightly turned head. She was showing submissive signals.
Then she pushed her hair behind her ears. She was preening, giving me a better view of her face. This is something you commonly see, where they tend to straighten their appearance or give you a better view of them (in this case pushing her hair away from her face). In general they just accentuate certain physical characteristics including face, hips, butt, and breasts.
I sat next to her at the table at some point and realized she had turned her whole torso to face me and was leaning toward me. She was comfortable and obviously not threatened by me. She was facing me and showing me a better view of herself by giving me a frontal.
She was closing the distance and she was the Space Invader. If she is comfortable with you with out space it is a very good sign. She obviously wants to be closer to you. She wants to be close enough to touch you. Remember when we are friends with someone we don’t try and touch someone, when we like someone we still want our space. However when we are attracted to someone space is something we don’t want at all, we want them as close as possible.
You guys will recognize girls make more moves then guys when you start to pay attention. They send us signals, they move at a pace they are comfortable with. If we move at their pace, which is faster then you think then you can never push someone outside their comfort level.
When I sat next to her she would reach out towards me with her hands. As if asking permission to touch, this happens all the time. A girl will want to touch you but as a guy we don’t pick up on it at all. I often refer to reaching out as The Reach, they will move their arms out but not quite touch you.
I moved back to my friends which were close by. We were having drinks, she walked by and gave me a hug. She was obviously very attracted to me. She had closed the first four phases of the courtship process without any help from me, she got attention, recognition, interaction, and touch all in. The final fifth step of courtship, sex.
These were the observations I made, in this particular case I didn’t go after the girl, she did come with another gentlemen and although they weren’t dating, I find it best to keep the peace. Sometimes that means passing on a girl or a two.