Situation: After going to the bar me and my friends went to a restaurant. It is an ok little spot, key being it is on the way home and only a block from my spot. I was a little(modestly) intoxicated, it was my Birthday.
So we walked in a restaurant and we were introduced to our Server. The Server was a cute girl, I was really happy about that when I seen her again(intoxicated). She walked up and was a up beat girl.
I happen to be wearing a concert T-Shirt Zion I a hip hop group, it has red, green, and yellow on it. She had a bracelet that had those colors. We automatically made rapport based on color scheme, but also because she knew the hip hop group. So she came up with her regular customer service smile and changed to a genuine smile.
As we began to talk about music I noticed her head turn, she was starting to show submissive signs. Neck exposure was all about, because she is a waitress she has to have open body language, so I wasn’t about to take this first signal. Her wrists always have to be open with palm exposure, after all can’t take an order with your arms crossed. It also puts a damper on tips. They are also known for elbow and slight shoulder touches(females to males) that were known for substantially increase tips.
So with servers you obviously need to know a difference between true flirting and flirting for dollars. You should pay specific attention to whether you get special treatment. You need to look to see how she talks to the other people at your table. You also need to see how she talks to people at other tables, this includes how long they talk to you. How long she or if she touches other people.
Pay attention to which way her foot faces, you are more focused on subconscious signs, preening, and torso. In this case she was adjusting her bracelets, you could see she was preening. She grabbed her earrings a few times as well. She also had her torso facing me, her foot pointed towards me, and was making strong eye contact, her body language was directed at me. She adjusted her hair and glasses here and there(preening). She was definitely showing signs of interest. In this case she talked to us a lot longer than she was other people, me specifically.
She was not preening for other people, she was not resting her hand on their shoulder as she was with me. She was comfortable with touch as well as limited space. This wasn’t consistent with her usual behavior. She was a smiley nice girl and it was obvious that was part of her true character. So I had to look for congruences in her behavior amongst other people there. This is something that works for poker, you look for their behavior and how it changes when they have comfortable hands, or uncomfortable hands.
As we were getting ready to leave she stopped by to ask how the food was. She wanted to know more than that so we chatted about concerts coming up. She eventually came out and asked for my number, said we need to hangout. She had pointed out one statement I made and she said she wanted to hangout because I said it. I didn’t get her number, she did however text me a week later.