This is more about what not to do. I have a friend, always has girls around. He hits up some doozies. This guy considers himself a ladies man and thinks girls love him. He is the only guy I have ever seen get denied by every single multiple girl set at a club. There are some things that he does that I want you guys to remember to avoid.
One of his high school buddies I kick it with(best natural I know) referred to That Guy as a 25 year old boy. When I reexamined him I realized he was right. There are things you can do when your 18 and naive with girls that you can’t get away with when you grow up. He consistently does some things that are absolutely threatening. That Guy’s game is based on his looks(girls think he is hot it is his game that messes it up) and a numbers game(he doesn’t realize how much he gets rejected).
Adolescent behavior, That Guy doesn’t act like a 25 year old. You need to be an adult, this guy still acts like a teenager. Shoot rubber bands, throws paper, just extremely young behavior. While youth is attractive, immaturity is not. Act your age guys and you will appear to have a much higher value.
When he approaches girls he is usually pretty hammered, though he says “I always knows what I am doing”. This is bad for obvious reasons, how can you be of high value if your not even sober. I have been pretty hammered and wasn’t proud of my actions the following day. I really need to record him doing this stuff one of these nights so he can see it. You guys should be in the right mind set and being a drunken idiot isn’t the right mindset.
The importance of space in courtship is absolutely huge. That Guy doesn’t wait for comfort he jumps right in and feels he is comfortable with that much space so she must be. This is obviously not true, it is down right threatening when a person crowds you. He moves in entirely to quick, and girls move back. He is very bad at reading body language, all his clues must be auditory or very proactive.
He loves to rub a girls elbow with his introduction to a girl. That Guy will rub their elbow and ask questions after only a few seconds.This is a very personal spot, the girl has to be very comfortable with you to do that. Over elevating is an obvious problem, we all want to skip to home plate(sex) but you got to run the bases(phases) to step on home plate and score. So not only is he crowding a girl without her permission but he is touching her in personal areas(not necessarily sexual) making girls extremely uncomfortable. This is very threatening and I haven’t seen any stranger encourage this behavior.
That Guy often puts his arm around there waste just walking up next to them. So he walks up touches them from behind without permission, and he invades their space. This is very threatening and girls get very uncomfortable. It is absolutely devastating when you are talking to a girl and he comes up and does this to the girl you are talking to. He scares her off, and because you know him he lowers your value.
Ok That Guy loves to sing and that is fine, but he loves to yell and sing. This is threatening for obvious reasons, he is raising his voice at the girl while he is “serenading” to her. I have seen it several times on the dance floor. He thinks that girls love it, but he always to drunk to realize how uncomfortable these girls are. They always end up excluding him from their group but he doesn’t get it and tries to enter the group again. I have seen it multiple times. You guys should not be yelling at girls for obvious reasons.
The girls on this particular night told him to he was obnoxious. One girl said I gave you three chances and you are just annoying and obnoxious, meaning she forgave him for his adolescent behavior and was even willing to have sex with him until the third time. I have seen him walked away on time and time again. He is very unaware of other people so he happens to be very self centered. It is always the other person, oh she was bla, or it was a bad situation. He never steps up and say man I was dumb, that was unacceptable behavior sorry about that.
I just want to say Don’t be That Guy. That Guy is considered creepy, arrogant, close minded, inconsiderate, selfish, threatening, obnoxious, annoying etc., not a very good description of who you want to be.